will my original cat ever stop hating my new stray cat????its driving me nuts?

Question

i already had a female cat coco,1yr old,my dad brought a stray home one night itd been hangin round his gf's house 4 a while hes about the same age.We thought with coco having a litter and with getting on with other cats outside it would be an ideal mate for her anyway we brought casper in and coco immediately screamed out and chased im into the kitchen and has never liked him,few days after we gt casper we had them both done and still no change coco constantly hisses growls and and is always moping around and sits upstairs all day when we do put them in the same room coco clutches herself in one corner and doesnt take her eyes off casper whos usually sleeping but he happily gets up and wanders round while coco sits there growling casper sometimes tries to stare her out and chases her and she runs away screaming considerin shes the one doing all the hissing and being nasty its annoying she dnt listen when you tell her off for hissing she just ignores me and does it all the more help!!!

jst to add i only have one litter tray as they both go outside one goes out the back which is usually casper and coco goes out of the front as she hates the sight of him i really dont have a clue what to do n e more i give up if n e one cud give sum gd advice tht i can try out itd be very helpful thanks in advance for answering the question

another detail that i may have not mentioned the cats are neutered spayed i have had the stray for nearlly a month now and they are around the same age 1 and a few months coco and casper around the same

yes i am 100 percent sure they are female and male otherwise when i had them done they wouldve had the same operation which they didnt casper had his testicles removed and coco had something done on her side

Answer 1

It could happen but it might not. We were lucky. We had a 2 and a half year old cat and brought a 3 month old kitten in. There were a few tense moments but the first night they started getting along famously. It's been 2 years now and they play together all the time. They are like brothers, they do fight at times but mostly they get on fine. Good luck to you. You might need it.

Answer 2

I think the answer about spaying and neuturing is a very good one. Unless you want kittens, cause maybe that is what some of that "fighting" is about!

Now, I have just one question? Are you positive they are the opposite sex?

Cause' you may be in for quite a surprise. There was a cat that we have had for years. Everybody called it her, we were told it is a her. A few years later, we have now found out it is a him! You have been living in my house under false pretenses! My Dad says to him.

Maybe it could be, they just "love" to hate each other! That could be, I think. Cats seldom hurt each other. They may be working things out, and having more fun doing that then you think! I have seen cats fight to the teeth! Then turn right around and sleep in each other's arms.

But that does not mean they wouldn't feel sad and empty if one of them were lost, or removed.

Course, maybe not at this point, but, Yes! Even when they haven't known each other long.

Cause' life just don't seem the same to em' without a good rousing fight now and then! Like all the excitement has gone away. It's not only friends that keep us stronger, sometimes our enemies do too! Applacian people put flowers on the graves of their enemies.

There are good pet websites to get on, as far as getting them used to each other's scent.

Answer 3

Ok it's more difficult because the two cats are the same age - if Casper was younger, then Coco's maternal instinct may have kicked in and she would have felt compelled to care for him. As it stands, when you introduced a new feline to 'her' house, you were threatening her position as ruler of the territory.

What you need to do is try to start over and slowly try to get them more used to each other's company and the idea of sharing. Don't ever force them to be together but instead nudge towards the idea, say keeping Casper in a room that Coco doesn't enter very often - this is less encroaching on her territory. Give him his own litter tray and food bowl in there and let him out for a bit when Coco isn't about.

Does Coco have any treats she particularly likes? For instance my cat loves warm prawns. You could start introducing the idea of giving the cats treats when they are near one another. Since it sounds like Casper is fairly placid, maybe give him a treat to munch on in his room, and lead Coco to the doorway with hers. Let her eat it in the doorway. The cats will be near to one another but not threatening as they are both occupied. Slowly over the days move the treats closer together until they start eating about 2 feet away from each other.

This will reassure them that they are not in any danger from one another. Another tip I read was occasionally swapping their bedding over so that they get accustomed to one another's scent.

Good luck with the two of them, just remember to take it slow and don't force them into anything, relationships sometimes take time!

Answer 4

It's a territory thing. The house is Coco's house, and she doesn't want the stray. She may learn to tolerate him in time.
When I brought home our kitten, my adult female cat HATED him. She hissed and swatted at the poor little 6 week old baby, for a week or two. But now she loves him, he goes to her for licks and they often sleep together.
Your two cats may never be amicable like that, but Coco may tolerate him eventually.
Don't force them to be together, by putting them in the same room. Allow them to stay in their own territories; they will probably never share a territory.

Provide two litter boxes, even if casper doesn't use one. Provide two food/water stations. Allow them to get to know each other slowly, at their own pace.

Also, make sure they are both fixed, so they do not produce kittens together.

Answer 5

My female never got over it when we got new cats.

She became a recluse, and was very timid around the new comers. She still loved us, but she did her best to stay far away from the other cats.

It was likely because she was at least 8 when we got her. She was alone her entire life, the queen of the roost. She didn't adapt.

Some cats are better... They need to be intergrated at a slow and relaxed pace where both cats feel neither threatened, or forced into the situation.

It's best to keep everything seperate for a while. And shower both with attention.

The first cat will likely have the hardest time adjusting.

Answer 6

I depends on how long you have had the new stray. It can actually take months for some cats to get used to each other. Just be patient. It took nearly 6-7 months for my cat to get used to a new cat we brought in. After a while, they just did their own thing entirely and now they tolerate each other, but still stay away or when they are around each other, they hiss at each other. so, they actually still hate each other, but are tolerable. It takes some time.

Answer 7

When I moved into my friends house, it took about 3 months for the two cats to get along. They never were the best of friends but it took that long. They might of been friendly if we lived together a little bit longer but lease let up and she moved out. It'll take some time before your cat will accept the new cat. Hopefully not as long as it took my cat.

Answer 8

Keeping them in separate rooms for a while will help. Introduce them to eachother a little at a time. If Coco still hisses, spray her with a spray bottle everytime she does it. She'll learn to use her manners real quick. That's how we got my cat to stop hating the stray that I took in. She hated being sprayed, so she stopped being mean, now they love eachother.

Answer 9

I'm afraid you'll just have to give it time and see how the cats work it out. There are plenty of good ideas in the answers already, so I'm not going to repeat them.

Ultimately, it does depend on the cats. Sometimes an "armed truce" is as good as it gets.

Answer 10

hi there lauren, well its so hard, i have got two and they hated each other so much, that every time we let them out of there rooms they went crazy!!! i found the best thing was to get some good toys ( ones on string) cover them in cat- nip and make them play with other, you need to make it a fun thing!! also swap them over into each others rooms so that they can smell each other hope that this has helped. just remember aswell cats always make it sound worse than what it actually is. good luck!