I need some advice regarding a friends... we were supposed to exchange X-Mas presents before the holidays, but I ended up going on a family vacation so we decided to exchange presents sometime when I got back town...I have been back for a few days and have left a couple of messages on my friend's cell phone, but she hasn't called me back yet. I also sent her an e-mail, but she never replied. It has been 5 days since I have called her. What should I do? Why is she giving me the cold shoulder? She and I have never had any problems before. I understand that she needs her space, but how am I am supposed to give her all the great presents that I got her while on my trip? Any advice please...
2007-01-08 06:30:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, Farrah. It is nothing wrong with giving a person space and allowing them to return the phone call. I'm sure she has checked her caller ID and e-mail inbox. She knows what she is doing. You have done your part, let her do hers. Eventually she'll come around or make the phone call or send you an e-mail just sit back and relax. The answers to you soon.
2007-01-08 06:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you explain to her that you went on vacation? Actually I was supposed to exchange gifts with my friend before the holidays and we still haven't done it yet. She's been calling me and I haven't gotten back to her...oops. I've been really busy though with my three kids....hopefully she isn't feeling the same way you are. If you guys have been friends for a long time and you never had problems before you should ask her if something is wrong and to talk to you about it. Maybe you should take a visit to her house...? Good luck!
2007-01-08 06:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're a really good friend. she may be ignoring you for two reasons, 1-she didnt have enouhg money to buy you any presents and is too embarrased to confront you. or 2-she was very lazy and thoughtless, and didnt really care about your agreement to exchange gifts. either way, if you decide to call her or contact her again, leave her a message saying that 'you understand if she wasnt able to get you any gifts, but you just want to talk to her and see her.' if she still doesnt reply wait until she contacts you or just forget about her and go on with life. at that point she is either a really bad friend, or she has contacted you because of a more powerful reason. it is up to you to decide what to do next. good luck!
2007-01-08 06:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is don't jump to any conclusions. There are a million reasons why she might not be returning your calls. Hold your judgement until she tells you why she hasn't called back. Make sure she is ok. Call someone else that knows her to see if she is ok or if they know why she isn't calling you back. Just show up at her place with the gifts like Santa does.
2007-01-08 06:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get busy, thinks tend to happen and their life goes on. Eventhough you are home from your vacation doesn't mean she needs to stop everything just because you're now ready to do your thing. She'll get back to you eventually and if she doesnt, you'll have your answer. Be patient. She can not be your only friend in the world!
2007-01-08 06:37:54 · answer #5 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you say on the voicemails? If all you want to see her for is to exchange gifts, she may not be so receptive. She may not have got you anything to compare with what you evidently got her, and she may feel that you would be upset with what she got you. Your demeanor when you called her has set the tone, so let her decide when to come back
2007-01-08 06:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did your part already by trying to contact her when you got back, so it's all on her. Maybe she still hasn't gotten your gift yet. So yes, just relax and if she doesn't get back to you, then forget her.. there are plenty of other people out there who are true friends, maybe she's a fake!
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 06:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by WiseGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait it out for a while longer. if you have attempted to contact her, she will respond when she can. she probably isn't mad at you, just may be very busy with what she has going on in her life right now. you'll be able to gift exchange sooner or later. i wouldn't worry about it...if you don't hear anything from her in another week, then i would try calling again
good luck!
2007-01-08 06:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try contacting her again, and if you again get voicemail perhaps tell her you are concerned. Maybe something has happened and she does not have the time to call, or maybe she is not well. If you still hear nothing try contacting a family member of hers to make sure that she is alright.
2007-01-08 06:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something may have happened while you were away, maybe someone has started something. Just wait it out, you have left enough messages for her, do not leave anymore the next step is hers, I hope you get to the bottom of this, gl.
2007-01-08 06:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋