My ex bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago. It's weird that he didnt block me on aim since it seems that he wants me totally out of his life. When he broke up with me he was very firm begging me to let him go and stuff. After the break up, the only convo we had was a week ago on aim and he was very cold too. After that I felt akward since both of us are on aim for hours and dont talk to each other. So I let myself disappear by being invisible. Then i noticed that everytime my ex signed in he only stayed for like 5 minutes and then signed off. This is weird b/c when i was visible both of us would be online for hours. I dont know why he does this now. Is it possible that he is looking for me?but he never talks to me when he can see me online. i just wonder why he is doing this sign-on-sign-off trick. Btw, the reason of the break up is he doesnt want a relationship right now, which i believe him. he really has trouble balancing everything in his life.He's a senior in college and i'm his 1st gf
2007-01-08 06:19:12 · 11 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you just test your theory? Take yourself off invisable and see if he stays online. Then put yourself back on and see what happens.
Give him space. He told you he doesn't want a relationship. If he really wanted you back he'd let you know. Give it time and maybe you two can at least be friends!
2007-01-08 06:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be over analyzing this and it could just be a coincidence that he only stays on for 5 minutes when your invisible and hours while your on. However, it could mean that he is waiting for you to AIM him. Since he is having a hard time balancing everything and you were his first gf, maybe he is depressed. He could be sitting online hoping that you AIM him. It could be his way of trying to get attention from you but he is scared to AIM you because he is the one that broke up. Then again, it could just be you over analyzing it and only seeing what you want to see.
2007-01-08 14:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by someon09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to give yourself some space and sometime to heal.. Delete him off your account. That way your not always seeing him come on or go off. Why put yourself through that.
Get involved with some of your friends and start doing things to help you get your mind off this guy. Look at it this way, he was honest with you about how he felt and really did you a favor so you can move on with your life since hes not able to handle a relationship right now.
You deserve someone who can care about you just as much as you do them. Don't cut yourself short wondering about this guy. Its a new year and its time for new things! Good Luck!
2007-01-08 14:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. It sounds like you are right, he's looking for you on aim. Being his first gf, he can't just let go of you. He may be having a tough time balancing but when you broke up, he lost a part of himself, a part that he really down deep wants back.
Try letting yourself be visible once again and see what happens. You can't always go back to being invisible again only this time let him know you're going to be invisible.
2007-01-08 14:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sign on/ sign off thing could be for many reasons, probably none of them have to do with you. Maybe he only has time for a few minutes to be online lately, or maybe the person or people he is looking to speak with are not online. Why not save yourself the heartache and remove him from your friends list, he may have done that to you already and doesn't know or care when you are online. It may sound harsh but if he told you he is done and wants you out of his life, then its best if you move on instead of continuing to hurt yourself.
2007-01-08 14:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a hobby! Delete him from AIM and move on. Think about it, maybe he's looking for someone else on AIM? Ever thought about that? You should get Greg Berhandt's book, "He's Just Not Into You", have a good cry and move on. Sorry.
**piece of advice: Men like a woman who is confident, and has her own life/goals.
2007-01-08 14:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hhmmm.......
well it might be that when you were visible, he wanted to see if you were going to message him, but since you are invisible, when he signs on and doesn't see you, he signs right back off if he doesn't have anybody else to message.
BUT, i wouldn't classify that as playin games, and its not a trick either, he might be looking for you, but technically he's not "doing" anything. you're not messaging him, and he's not messaging you. same thing!! i think you are making something out of nothing.
you should just go ahead and message him, you obviously care more than he does!!
2007-01-08 14:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him go! delete him from ur IM so u dont gotta see him anymore. obviously if he thinks he made a mistake hes gonna realize it and he'll come back to you then your gonna be the one in charge of making the decision. but in the mean time just go out and meet my people. lifes too short to be living on the past!
2007-01-08 14:24:13 · answer #8 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't get your hopes up yet. Ever since the Taiwan quake our internet has been going crazy. So it's probably the connection.
I wouldn't read too much into that right now. Give it some time
2007-01-08 14:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by sugarscamp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is scared,and it seems like he has alot on his plate right now,if you really want to get this man and keep this man be his friend listen when he needs an ear this is a stressful time in his life right now.
2007-01-08 14:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋