My 12 year old son's father has promised to take my son hunting for the past 2 years, but his promises have been empty ones. I've told him if he waits around for his dad to take him then he'll never go hunting. (you have to know my ex....) So, my boyfriend asked my son to go after getting camo gear for Christmas. He's been twice w/my boyfriend and my son absolutely loved it!! My son never told his dad he went and has just found out about it. He called my boyfriend and griped him out for being disrespectful that it is a father-son thing he was going to do w/him and told him never to take my son hunting again. Instead of being excited for him, he made my son feel bad about going. I told my son that no one can tell him not to go and if the next time he asks him to go....would he do it and my son said yes. Do you think it was wrong for me to let him go w/my boyfriend? Was it wrong him his dad to be so angry about it?
2007-01-08 06:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You say that your son's father had promised your son that he would take him hunting and he never did? so, your boyfriend took him hunting and your Ex. got angry about it and he made your son, feel bad about going hunting. My guess is that your, Ex. had no right in telling your boyfriend not to take your son with him, because, the only thing your Ex. felt was his pride being hurt not, that his son went hunting with someone else. So, my advice to you is not to bother as to what your Ex. says, and please let your boyfriend take your son, on this hunting trips if he wants to.
2007-01-08 06:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in letting your boyfriend take your son and 2 thumbs up to the boyfriend for taking your son. Your ex has no right to be upset when he has promised and never followed through to take him. He also had no right to call you b/f. Your son is 12 and he will know soon enough the true way his dad is and just keep telling your son not to worry about what dad says and that if he wants to go with the b/f then go and have fun.
2007-01-08 06:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by workit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong because your ex is jealous that your boyfriend is spending time with his son. That his own son is having fun w/ another male. If your ex is so angry tell him to get his act together and start acting like a father. My dad has promised me since I was little we will go to Disneyland.... I'm still waiting! So yeah don't let your son be upset by lies(broken promises) from his father. GOOD for your man to spend time w/ your child!!
2007-01-08 06:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong for his father to be so angry about it. He is the one that has missed out on the oppurtunity to be with his son for whatever selfish reasons he has. My father was the same way with my little brother after the divorce. He would promise to take him to do something and then never came thru on the promise.
I think that its great that your boyfriend took your son and they were able to bond and he had such a good time. It's good that he has a male figure in his life that he can lean on and look up to.
2007-01-08 06:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is so painful; the kids are in a tug-of-war between
the adults and the kids are too young to understand. Well,
at least your son got to go hunting. Sometimes the parents
are so busy, they don't get a chance to always do the things
they want to do for fun. Tell you son his dad still loves him,
that's all you can do.
2007-01-08 06:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong. It's a shame that your son has to find out what a schmuck the dad is so early in life. But some dads are like that. Not to leave anyone out. Finding someone to look up to is hard enough. If your child had fun. no need to feel guilty.
2007-01-08 06:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by LESLIE M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were right to let your son go with your boyfriend especially if your ex has the track record you say. His dad is the one who it wrong. You don't string along your own son and especially not for YEARS!!
2007-01-08 06:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by sunflower 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were right, your boyfrined was right, your son was right on going, you Ex is dead wrong and jealous, but obviously won't take the time to be with his son to correct things. If you son needs another mentor on hunting and fishing email me!
2007-01-08 06:22:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo Answers has spoken, dear sister. The answer is clear. :) Isn't it a beautiful thing? Now you see why I'm so addicted. ;) I hope J doesn't stopping asking B to go hunting because the IDIOT griped him out on the phone.
2007-01-08 07:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your son was right goin, you were right letting him go, and that your husband is just jealous, if he would've taken your son hunting this wouldnt hav happened, just look at it likt this, sry if it sounds like i moanin, i jus tryin to help, i hope this does.
2007-01-08 06:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋