I really like her but she hates me...what should I do!?
There's a girl in my class who I really like. We used to like each other for a while even though we didn’t talk that much. Anyway, it now seems like she really hates me for no reason and I don't know if she still likes me. When I start talking to her she tries to ignore me... well I don't know what's going on cause she asked me last week whether I hate her. Should I just talk to her and ask her whether she doesn't like me and tell her that I feel like she ignores me or is it a bad idea?! Please be honest...
2007-01-08 06:15:02 · 22 answers · asked by ari90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look if you really like her try to ask her why is she ignoring you
if she proceeded on ignoring you so lend her a deaf ear
as some girls want t attract the attention of boys who are not interested in them and want them to show them their care
try this and you will see if right send me back and tell me what happened my email is in my profile
2007-01-08 06:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by khatora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is giving you the cold shoulder because she is ticked about something. However, it is not the end of the world, girls tend to be more sensitive then men.
I would suggest being straight with her. But let her cool a little. Maybe a day or two. Then try approaching her when you know she will be alone. Her friends may serve as a block if you are trying to reach her.
Tell her you are not aware of what is wrong but you know there seems to be a problem. Also let her know how much you really care about her and how you don't want to lose her as a friend (or girlfriend).
If she does offer some input, listen and don't go on the defense. She may yell at you if she is pissed. But try not to focus on the attack as much as what she is trying to say.
The best thing I learned when someone is mad is try repeating what they said back to them but in a calm voice. Example: "So you feel __________ because ________?" Then work on that problem if you are right. Confirming the problem will help her relax because she doesn't have to get her point across any more and she can focus on how you two will resolve her problem.
I hope this helps.
Cheers,
2007-01-08 14:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask her out. It may be that she likes you and she's trying to act like she doesn't care so you won't know her true feelings. If she says no move on there are plenty of fish in the sea. I think she'll say yes though. Good luck!
2007-01-08 14:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by quel772o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest - okay...
You're just a kid - I know that - but I'll tell you something that will hopefully serve you for the rest of your life.
NO ONE KNOWS WHAT TO DO!
Girls (women) are totally unpredictable, they don't know what they want and they change like the tides. If you are looking for something stable and explainable, you'd better choose something like geometry because it doesn't work for girls.
The answer to your specific question is that SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU!!! You are wasting your time and efforts by even thinking about her.
FP
2007-01-08 14:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just go up to her and say something like, Can I ask you a question, if she says yes then ask if there was something you did to make her mad, because you noticed that she has been trying to ignore you. See what she says.
2007-01-08 14:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. The reason she may be doing this 2 you is because she is shy. When I liked this boy, I was really like....snippish, and haughty, I guess....'cause I was afraid I would mess up. Girls also act sorta meanish as flirting...sorta playing ''hard to get''. Like, they like you but they don't want you to know so they are acting like you don't exist, or that they have no intrest in you whatsoever, or they loathe you.
If she asked you last week, if you hated her, she wanted to know your true feelings in sorta a sly way. I guess she didn't want to get rejected, or something,....if you didn't return the feelings.
But you do,,,......so I suggest you keep on trying to talk to her..or ''accidently'' let it slip that your like her..or talk to one of your friends about you like her, they make sure she can hear, and you think she can't.
Trust me, it always works. Well, anyways...best of luck to you...................................
....................................--Lillie--...............................................
2007-01-08 14:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Lillie ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her. Why would she ask you if you hate her? Maybe someone is talking BS to her about you. Try to find out what's going on. Communication will straighten everything out.
2007-01-08 14:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, being honest with her and showing her you are not afraid to express your feeling may even help the situation. Just don't be pushy with her on her answer give her space, and let her breathe. You don't want to push her away.
2007-01-08 14:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by UnKnown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a other name of love. Ignore is not a love.
2007-01-08 14:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by akandaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about everything between you 2 'cause this is the best way to learn the truth and to ignore the POSSIBILITY of misunderstanding!
CONVERSATION is the best way to woman heart!
2007-01-08 14:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by k_largova 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋