I had sex with this guy on our second date. He asked me to call him the next day (yesterday) and I did. Talked to him for a sec and he said he was busy that day. How long should I wait before I figure I am being blown off?
We had a great time.... I don't usually do things like that (sex so soon) but he literally charmed the pants off of me. lol. What do guys think when a girl has sex that fast? Do you think he will call me or was I just used?
When I called him out that night (joking) I said "...Now I'm not going to never hear for you again am I?..." His response was "I'm not going anywhere".
What do you think?
2007-01-08 06:09:23 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both wanted it and it felt right there is nothing wrong with that...A lot of people have sex like it is just a casual thing too...don't be to hard on yourself...maybe he really was busy...just next time you two meet up don't have sex and explain why you did the first time...tell him he is charming and a great person and someone you would love to get to know better and sex will come with time...
Sorry I was reading some of these responses and it just blows my mind...like they are all perfect...we all make mistakes and you know what he was in it too not just her and she is not a hoe or slut or whatever else comes to mind...I met my fiance and we had sex the first time we met...not even a date!!! It's been well over a year and the sex is great and we are getting married in December 2007! So yeah everyone has different morals and stuff but she is marriage material she seems very nice and she is just wanting advice not people putting her down...If he doesn't call you then that is his loss girl...you will find better...and if you feel it's the right time to have sex then do it...
2007-01-08 06:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I pretty much think he was using you. You really should have thought about it before you gave it up so soon and it's only a matter of time before he either completely breaks up with you or, trys to get into your pants again. Right now, not to be rude or anything, but he probably thinks your easy. I think you sound like a nice person, so next time around you shouldn't be so eager to get with someone. Even if they are quite charming, it's better to wait to see if it can become a worthwhile relationship before just jumping on him. So, if he breaks up with you, I hope you'd learn from it and don't be surprised, or take it hard or anything. If he still sticks with you, just make sure he doesn't have another bootycall on the side!
2007-01-08 06:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by kisses1591 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either being passive-aggressive OR he is afraid that you are going to blow him off. (Actually, it can be a combination of the two).
By insisting that you be the one that initiates contact, he can't be rejected. This is a BIG fear with men.
If you're truly interested in this guy DO NOT BE NEGATIVE. A comment like "Now I'm never going to hear from you again"--even when it's said in jest--hints that you feel that you've been used. Confidence is the sexiest quality a woman can have.
If you want to really test him, call him and ask him out on a date. Let him pick the day/night (so he can't say he's "busy") and decide together on where you'll go (to maintain a level of participation in the decision-making process).
If he declines or leaves it open-ended, he may be "conditioning you to be a booty call." Drop him like a bad habit.
(I'm probably going to get thrown out of the club for this...I hope you know that. ;-)
2007-01-08 06:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by mrvid2002 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in this same exact situation. I called the girl back and kept up with the charm thing for a means of getting sex. And after a while i started to get attached. So I decided to try a relationship with her, but it never worked. I didnt trust her at all cause if she had sex with me on the second date then why wouldnt she do that with anyone else!?! On top of that i didnt have any type of respect for her. We put each other thru a year of hell! So my advice would be to let that one go, and wait for the next one. And do that one right! But then again what is RIGHT!?! So i guess just see how things are going, and dont let yourself be used for just sex.
2007-01-08 06:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 35 years old (female) and have dated over 20 years. I've made lots of mistakes. Let this be a lesson to you.
You gave it up too soon and you will likely not hear from him again. Guys are like that and it isn't fair. But, if a girl gives it up too soon, they lose interest and think she is promiscuous. Double standards suck like that.
Next time...wait. Wait as long as you possibly can. That means 5-10 dates. Maybe a couple of months.
It is hard, but I bet waiting beats the way you feel now.
Chalk this up to a painful lesson.
p.s. if you do hear from him again, don't act overly eager. If he asks you out, fine but DO NOT do it again until you're sure he is into you. If he tries to charm your pants off again, you'll know he is just after ONE thing.
2007-01-08 06:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is it if a woman has sex on the 2nd date she is "easy" but the man is a "stud". That is such bull sh*t. I agree with what was said a few posts before mine, he had sex on the 2nd date, too, so whatever... and FYI, I had sex on the 3rd date with a guy & he just so happens to be my husband now... we were together for 4 years before we got married & it's been almost a year & a half since the wedding! So don't count yourself as used just yet. Not all men are jerks.
2007-01-08 06:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by sara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you just got the lesson you needed. All boys are going to want the same thing from you. They all try to charm the pants off of you. You were easy enough for him, so he took advantage of that. If he does call you, it will only be because he wants to do it again. He has already told all his friends and they will be trying to "take you out" now too. I hope you will be a little more respectful of yourself. Just remember that you have something they want, not the other way around. If you think you are only worth the second date to give that up, then that's all your worth. I hope you re-examine your whole self. Thank you and GOD bless.
2007-01-08 06:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex on the second date? Well, when I was in high School, I tried to score when i could too. If he charmed you into it so fast, all he is looking for is a piece of @$$. Think higher of yourself. If a guy is around after 2 or 3 months with no sex envolved then he is interested in you and not whats between your legs.
2007-01-08 06:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you are jumping to conclusions too quickly. Relax. Not all men think that you are "easy" if you sleep with them early. Real men realize that sometimes, a woman wants to have sex. Period. And some men even find this endearing...the fact that you know what you want, and go for it. It sounds like he was really busy, and you should chill out and wait a day or two. He still sounds interested, and he is not avoiding you. Relax. It will work out.
2007-01-08 06:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he had sex on the second dat,too. So, quit your worrying about what some people might think of you. Your your own person and didnt hurt anybody,its no big deal. Sometimes,things lead us to have sex before we should and than its okay butsometimes a guy(women,too) are just looking for a fun time and when they get it,they move on before you want a relationship. This is partly why if your looking for more,you wait. But you weremnt exactly used,you willingly had sex,hopefully because you felt like using his body,too.
2007-01-08 06:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋