one day i was coming from school. i saw my dad with his girlfriend.it really hurt me because the lady was 7 months pregnant and plus my dad and my mom are still together.i wanted to cry but i did'nt. anyways, he told me not to tell my mom. but i still did and he got mad at me because i told my mom. i was right to tell right?
2007-01-08 06:09:21 · 19 answers · asked by MZPASTRYS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It makes me soo, mad when the father, or the mother, start to involve their children in keeping secrets when they start fooling around their spouses back, that they put their upspring in the middle of the cheating and they even get mad when they tell their daughter not to tell her mother about what she saw. I am not going to say anything bad about your Father, because you know what kind of a Dad you have, but, you should not feel guilty in telling your Mother ,what you saw. My guess is that you would not be able to sleep at night if you did not tell her, what you saw. I hope that this does not make you bitter, and since you do not say how old you are, please try to come to terms with this problem. I wish you lots, of Luck and God Bless you because this is a big burden you are dealing with.
2007-01-08 06:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Your dad was wrong in the first place for putting you in that situation. He was also wrong for getting mad at you because you are his daughter. Give him so time to cool off and sit him down and tell him how you felt and still feel about the situation. Good luck!
2007-01-08 06:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by flowerintherain02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right now he is just angry because he knows he was wrong. Give it sometime and give him some space.
He owes you the apology and your mom honestly. Dont blame yourself for something that is not your fault!
Please remeber this is HIS wrong doing and something that he has to take responsibility for. Adults dont always make good choices and make mistakes. This is NOt your fault and you did nothing wrong!
Try to look towards the good things in your life. It can help to talk with your mom or a trusted adult (like a counselor at school, or pastor) to help sort out your feelings right now. Good luck.
2007-01-08 06:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she has every right to know. If he knew she wouldn't like it he shouldn't be doing it. Your mom and dad probably have problems they need to talk about and by telling your mom what you saw it may help them start talking about things they have been avoiding. No matter what happens you need to know it wasn't your fault. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for your family.
2007-01-08 06:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right for doing that! Your mom needs a right to know. Your dad shouldn't of even put you in that position in the first place.
2007-01-08 06:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes you were right in telling your mom doesn't have to go around looking like the fool cause your dad isn't man enough to stand up and say the truth. mom needed to know even though it might have hurt to hear it but dad needs to figure out what he wants and stop playing mom along
2007-01-08 06:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES I think you were right in telling your mom.Let him be mad.He is playing your mom and the girlfriend.And that is awful.He needs to grow up and realize that telling you not to say anything was wrong of him.You obviously love your mom and you did the right thing.Don't let him make you feel guilty for his mistakes.He is the one that did wrong not you.
2007-01-08 06:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by starryeyed 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you was right for telling her because you love her but it's obvious that your dad will be mad at you coz you blew open his little secret....it's his own fault for cheating, if you had not have told her, someone else would have, it's jut a pity that you had to make a very difficult decision... BUT don't allow him to blame you...this is his mess, and you or your mum do not deserve to be lied to by someone who's meant to be a father and a husband, he's meant to be trusted, but now all that trust is gone for his silly mistake....don't feel guilty hun, you were thinking about your mum.....
2007-01-08 06:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely did the right thing....you're a very brave person for telling your mom. Most kids would have been too scared.
2007-01-08 06:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were 100% right. It is not your job to hurt your mother by keeping secrets for your Dad. I know you love him & you hate that he is mad at you but he needs to learn to take care of his family first & foremost.
2007-01-08 06:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋