About 4 months ago my mom started keeping my son who will be 3 next week. She volunteered, I did not go to her, so I took him out of the horrible daycare he was in. Well I am due in March with my second child, so I have to come in late some days due to Dr. appts, & I can't take time off other than that. My mom informed me last month that my father & her are taking a cruise Feb 26-March 2 & I need to find someone to keep my son that week. The dc doesn't want to keep a child for just one week or if they do it's for more than I can afford. The one option I had failed because she is due with her baby in Feb. I feel like my mom has put me in a bind, because of this cruise.She made a commitment to me and my family and now I am left trying to find suitable daycare for my son. If the cruise was at the end of March it would ba a little more feesible because I would be on maternity leave.(My dad won the cruise through work & they can't change the date of it.)
2007-01-08 06:09:13 · 5 answers · asked by askywalkersmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They went on a cruise last year through his work, also. My husband just started a new job and he can't take off either.
2007-01-08 06:32:19 · update #1
One other bit of info I pay her and provide all his food.
2007-01-08 06:36:55 · update #2
I can't tell you not to be upset...just that you really shouldn't be. The cruise is a windfall for them and to make them feel bad (and they probably do) about leaving you in a bind is not good. Look in the paper for your child care answers. Often there are daycare providers (in homes or some can come to your home) that do it totally on a week by week basis, maybe the childs father could help out. (I don't know all the particulars so this may not be an option), the point is that you have been given ample time to plan for the situation....don't blow it or your parents may not be too willing to get back into the babysitting role.
2007-01-08 06:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're taking your mother's commitment a bit too far.
When you say that she volunteered and you didn't go to her, are you really insinuating she twisted your arm? I doubt it. She was probably relieving you of having to take your child to a daycare you obviously weren't fond of and in the process saving you some money. You can't tell me you're not benefiting from this situation both stresswise and financially.
Now you want to ping her because they want to go on a free cruise where they can't change the date? Shame! Use some of that money that she saved you and pay for the one week of daycare. Either that or get a bit more creative and come up with a better solution than requiring your parents not take a vacation. The local government has listings of approved child care providers - more than likely one of those will take a child for one week. Check the local YMCAs as they often have childcare services that will take drop ins. Have your husband stay home for a week. It really doesn't sound like you've exhausted your options - doesn't really sound like you've even explored them.
I was a single parent for years and I would have given my eye teeth to have a trusted family member taking care of my children for free. Don't take advantage of it and make them feel like you are abusing it. As inconvenient as this may be, they are still doing you a favor by watching your child. Try being grateful for it.
2007-01-08 06:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by lilrubberducky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have reason to be upset. Yes it puts you in a bind but your mother has given you plenty of notice so that you can make other arrangments for your son that week. Yes she made a committment to you and your family but she also has a committment to her husband as well and if they want to go on a cruise then they should be allowed to enjoy that without feeling guilty
2007-01-08 06:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you may be frustrated but you shouldn't be. She has given you plenty of notice to find an alternate for a week. My mother-in-law has by child only a couple days a week but when something comes up (doctor's appointments or vacations), my husband and I need to just deal with it and find another sitter. She's our child, not his mother's and the same goes for you and your husband. Sorry if this sounds harsh but it's the truth.
2007-01-08 06:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more important to your mom than the cruise.Ask her if they can cancel it?Iam sure she will understand your problem.
2007-01-08 06:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋