Recently me and my man had a threesome MMF and I enjoyed every damn minute...lol But now he is ready for "his turn". I would love to do it and it wouldn't be a problem for me but I think we are getting deeper and the line may be crossed. He hates to admit it but I think the MMF threesome bothered him for a little while although he appears to be over it now. I just don't know what to do. He keeps asking about it and I'm stalling big time.
By the way he knew the first guy before you think that's why he was bothered. I think he was bothered because his feelings have grown and so have mine that's why I'm stalling
2007-01-08 06:08:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What line would be crossed?
Don't confuse jealousy with love. Many think the stronger their love the stronger their jealousy should be. In reality, in a good relationship it is exactly the opposite. The more you grow with your partner and the more your trust them, the less the jealousy should be. If all of a sudden there is jealousy where it never was before than there is codependency setting in, and thus insecurity.
My wife and I can swing because I love and trust her immensely. I know that there is no threat to our relationship from someone else. It's sex and that's all. Because I love her so much I want her to be who she is, and not change herself for me. I true love you find total freedom, whatever that freedom may be to you.
If issues are coming up than you need to step back from it for awhile and work through those. Then resume your swinging activities if all is well.
For some good, objective information that may help you out, check-out The Swingers Board. There are many discussions going on there, many about jealousy and exactly the situation you are experiencing now.
2007-01-08 10:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the big problems with playing like this, the other often becomes confused and/or possibly jealous and wondering if they performed as well as the newcomer. Often relationships are put in jeopardy but other times they grow depending on the individuals involved. If you do decide on trying a FFM threesome just be sure that you can handle emotionally the feelings that will accompany it.
2007-01-08 06:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T STALL ANY LONGER!
Go out TONIGHT and make his turn. Every minute you stall makes you selfish. You got yours, and it sounds like you agreed to make sure he got his. If your feelings are "growing," then that means you should want to fulfill your promises. The longer it goes on, the more manipulated and used he is going to feel. Eventually, even if you do it, the feeling of being manipulated and used is going to be stuck in his head and it will take a lot more to get it out. Never delay to fulfill an obligation to your significant other.
How would you feel if the situation were reversed and it were he stalling?
2007-01-09 03:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Participating in events such as these require complete understanding and trust between the two of you. It would be wise to talk about it and make sure you lay out all the "ground rules" so that each of you is completely aware what would and would not be acceptable during the event. You must be completely honest, or it can be the beginning of the end of your relationship.
2007-01-08 06:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shutterbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he let you do other dude you should let him do other chick and don't make a big deal about it after words, is his turn don't be possessive he gave you what you want it and belive me not a lot of men will share his women with another men at the same time.
2007-01-08 06:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Organise another MMF threesome so he'd get used to it. If he agrees, email me, It's a big sacrifice but I'll help you out.
2007-01-08 06:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Stormbringer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is in a position where he'd rather not share you with anyone. That type of relationship has gone beyond the sexual base that you think you had...into one based on emotions. Tell him you care for him and try not to pressure him into anything that might ruin your relationship.
2007-01-08 06:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical you loved it...and now you will deprive your guy having some fun! Are you just insecure that he might like the other girl better than you?
2007-01-08 06:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by arenaimage 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, ARE YOU CRAZY! YOU ARE ASKING FOR TROUBLE. I HOPE YOUR MINUTE OF PLEASURE IS WORTH A LIFE TIME OF PAIN.
IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND KEEP LIVING YOU WILL.
SIGNED: I'M PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND!
2007-01-08 06:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by miller77 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
......tell him you love him more.....and forget the other M, it would be the same way if it was MFF on his side.
2007-01-08 06:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋