Why does it seem like women's lives are so much more complicated than men's?

Question

I always feel like I'm worrying about one thing or another, busy being jealous or judgmental and then feeling guilty about it, self-conscious about what I look like and what others think of me, getting worried that I'm not well-liked, approval-addicted and ambition-driven, loudmouthed and outgoing, not afraid to take risks, which then equals more "trouble" and complication for me. I'm also always praying about my problems, which get solved but then more of them come up, leading me to struggle somewhat or grow distant in my faith sometimes. My boyfriend of 1.5 years, who is almost the exact opposite although we get along perfectly, seems to have SUCH a simpler life. He just gets up, eats food, goes to college, does well because he's like a genius, reads sports news and watches ESPN, hangs out with his buds and with me, sleeps all the time, and keeps devoted to God and our church...

How does this happen? I've tried to live like him but it's just not ME! Please help... I'm troubled.

Answer 1

It is all your point of view. or any ones for that matter

Answer 2

Men are more simplistic than women are. They have the ability to think of one thing at a time or nothing at all. They use 1/2 of their brain when thinking about things, where scientifically women use both sides at the same time. We connect everything emotionally. We think about everything and how everything is connected, not just one little thing. This tends to make us more complicated. It's just our nature. Maybe not ALL women, but a majority, myself included.

I suggest a couple of things.
1. Therapy to help you work through issues
2. Relaxation methods so you don't stress as much
3. Journal to get the crap out of your head
4. Talk to a minister or pastor of your faith for guidance
5. Read books. There's a lot of good guidance out there. Here's one I found helpful:
> The Feeling Good Handbook - David Burns

You need to learn to go with the flow and let some things go. It's difficult at first, but once you let go of the need to control everything, you will feel better. You are stressing over everything and that is not healthy. Have faith in the Divine, keep praying, and just know that things will turn out as they should.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Because typically women have more responsiblilty than men do with running a home and raising children and sometimes working out of the home as well. We have a lot on our plate each day and it is difficult sometimes to juggle everything, and usually we put ourselves last to get it all done. Also, we have more to deal with as far as keeping up our appearance and other female issuses like dealing with all the effects from our little monthly friend. Men don't realize all this and they never will. Just know that if you are a woman you are strong and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Also, try to take time out for yourself. You need that, all women do.

Answer 4

You could say exactly the same thing about women with complication regarding visitation and ex partners. If she cant accept you have kids and your situation, then she is not the right woman to start with - thats her problem not yours. I'm a mother of 5 kids (to the same jerk father) and am trying to explain to my new boyfriend, who has no kids, why I sometimes cant do things or why I may be upset at times when my ex has access Keep being a great father to your kids. They need to know at least one parent is there for them The right person will probably come along when you least expect it.

Answer 5

Because guys let things roll of their backs. They worry about something for about thirty seconds and then realize that it isn't worth worrying about. Guys are naturally more laid back and easy going. There are some issues that can be solved with a deep breath and a clear head instead of a million issues running through their head. Don't worry what other people think of you, worrying only stresses you out more. Then stress makes things seem one hundred times worse. Besides, stress can lead to some serious health risks, so be careful. Good luck!

Answer 6

Because guys have a universal saying: Don't worry, too long. We go through hard stuff to, and to be honest almost all those things you just listed GUYS think about too. We just don't dwell on these things. DON'T GO TO THE DOCTOR! Some of these people have suggested going to the doctor and telling him. But if you do they will most likely recommend you to pyschologist and drug you up with antidepressants. You said your a church girl and you try to stay close to God. Thats great. The answer to your problem though lies in yourself. Its nothing anyone can tell you, not even me. You have to realize in your own way, that life is short, and problems are just part of the package. The trick is to just to enjoy life, not to worry about it. If you want an example, think about it like this. Think about life as being a ocean, and you are on a tiny raft or kayak. You are paddling upstream, against the current. Think of problems as waves. Sometimes they're not so big, other times they overwhelm you. In the distance you can see a certain spot you'd like to get to, a goal. You paddle as hard as you can until you're worn out. Someone else right beside you says, "WOW did you see that!?" you look over at him and say "See what?", he answers "Two dolphins just jumped right out of the water right next to you!". If you had been enjoying the trip you would've seen it. But instead you were so focused on something else: worry, long term goal, doubt. That you completely missed it. The point is, Enjoy life. There is a Irish parable: There are only two things in life to worry about, either your healthy or your sick. If your healthy than theres nothing to worry about. If you sick there is only two things to worry about, either you'll get better or you will die. If you get better than theres nothing to worry about. If you die there are only two things to worry about, either you will go up or you will go down. If you go up, than theres nothing to worry about. If you go down, you'll be shaking hands with so many friends you won't have time to worry. :) hope this helps, God bless you.

Answer 7

Sheesh, lady, your brain needs to slow down a bit! If you don't mind me being honest here, it does sound like you are a bit of a drama queen (meaning you create & find drama in situations where no drama is necessary). You also care far too much about what people think. Learn to love yourself & the approval of everyone else won't matter. That's how I see it.

Answer 8

Sounds like you may have issues with low self esteem and possible ADD. Work on that and the rest of your life will fall in to place.

Answer 9

If your life is more connected with God, it will become simpler, kinder, and more enjoyable. God is the sepcitalist in solving our life problems.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Please must visit: www.spiritlessons.com)

Answer 10

im not trying to be mean at all so please dont take this the wrong way. but maybe make an appt. with your doc and explaing to him what you just said to a billion people over the net and maybe try meds. sounds like possible depression or even a mix of different medical problems. or it just could be your wound way to tight and need to relax and dont worry about what other people think and always rember its what you think and know is what really matters.

Answer 11

Yo girl! Just calm down and don't think of all this so much! Start something interesting that u like and fill up your time! Life is more simply than u think!