My bf and I have been living together for a year and my father was paying the rent I am about to be 25 so of course dad had enough and now I have to pay the rent. I have no problem with this I am grown dad is not going to take care of me forever. the thing is I am having trouble getting my bf to pay half. His half is only $250 I think if he lives there he should help. I told him if he wont pay half he needs to move out. He told me that it would be stupid to kick him out because then I would have to pay the whole rent with no help at all. I just feel that he is using me am I right or is he? He lives there all his clothes are there why should I pay more i feel it should be equal.
2007-01-08 05:59:33 · 34 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So your boyfriend lived with you for a year while your father paid the rent? Was it ok then............so instead of using you he used your father. But now that it's your dime you have a problem with it.
As the old saying goes........why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free...........
Your boyfriend sounds like he has a lot of character. I wouldn't let that one get away!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pay the rent, guys like him are few and far between.............a good free loader doesn't come around everyday if you know what I mean!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dump the cheap aaaaaaaaaassssssssssssssssssss!!!!!
ASAP..............
Daddy will probably be so happy he'll start paying your rent again!!
2007-01-08 06:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You set the stage by letting him live there without paying anything. Even if your father was paying the rent, you should have asked him to contribute.
How much is he offering to pay? $100? $200? Can he afford $250? When a man and woman live together, they have a partnership. It's not 50/50. It's work together and do the best you can. If you want 50/50, get a roommate.
2007-01-08 06:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What doe he mean, "It's stupid to kick me out because then you'd have to pay it all yourself"? Hello! That's what he's making you do anyway, so go ahead and kick him out. He really needs to grow up, badly. It's good that you are finding out what kind of man (BOY?) he is before you get too serious or contemplate marriage. If he is acting like this now, how will he act when you get married or have kids. "Well, you're the one who had the kid, you take care of him". etc. etc. Did he stay with you because he was having a free place to live or what?! Dump the loser, even if he does agree now to pay half. He's already shown you his true self and it ain't pretty. He's a selfish loser. Move on and get a real man who will be glad to pay his half, because he loves you. Actually a real man would of insisted on paying his 1/2 of rent, utilities, groceries, etc. Maybe even 3/4 or all. Move on.
2007-01-08 06:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What help is being offered with him around?
What you need to do is look at a monthly budget of living in the apartment. Utilities, Cable, Rent etc. Get the total figure and split that in half. Put your and your bf's portions into a joint account and use this to pay all of the bills.
Who's name is on the lease? If it's yours and this doesn't work out then you need to rent out a room. If you let a room out you have the upperhand if you need to evict them. If its a roommate thing, it's messier.
2007-01-08 06:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by allisoneast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case it should be 50/50 indeed. Or you would have to have a good talk about this and make sure he has legitimate reasons not to pay 50%. In my case i pay our rent (which is very low) And he takes care of groceries and stuff. It all depends on what you expect from eich other. In this case i think if he doesnt pay rent you need to tell him to move out.
2007-01-08 06:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our course he should help you. AND he should want to help you. What a stupid answer he gave you when he said, well you would be stupid to kick him out because then you will have to pay the whole thing. You should have said, no I would be smart, cause then I could get a man who will pay all the rent. LOL..
2007-01-08 06:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that your bf should either pay half of the rent, or take on some of the other bills. He shouldn't be living rent free.
2007-01-08 06:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Joyce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to pay half and you need to get it in writing. If he does not pay half, kick him out and get you a roommate (shouldn't be difficult with $250/mo rent).
Don't let him mooch off you...in fact,take this into consideration re: your relationship as a whole...this issue doesn't say much about him as an individual or an adult, does it?
2007-01-08 06:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right,he has to pay for his half,don't let him continue to use you like that. He just wants a free place to live,kick him out if he don't wanna pay. I'm a 37/m and I live on my own and the rent gets paid. If you want you can e-mail me at thatswhack3@yahoo.com
2007-01-08 06:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We did 50/50, till we bought our first condominium, then we did it otherwise. If you are not able to find the money for to reside this the character, keep at dwelling or wherein ever till you'll determine the monetary responsibilities. What occurs whilst the feminine will get pregnant and has the child and does now not paintings. Is she nonetheless anticipated to pay 50% of all of the expenses, hire, child demands, and the whole lot else???
2016-09-03 18:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋