To make this brief:I met someone on the internet,3yrs older.we were penpals for months and now we like eachother more than that...u know what I mean,so anyway,we are supposed to meet up in summer..we've seen pictures and webcam and stuff,so thats ok.The thing is,he is obsessed with sex and I'm a virgin fo life...ok not really,but till I get married and my parents are very strict people..VERY and am tooo young.he knows all this and has absolutely no problem with it...he is not mad and said he will never pressurize me,but the thing is,he doesnt like his obsession either,but just can't help it and he knows if we are 2gether and I dont wanna get down,he won't be able to control himself and we'll have problems there,so we don't want sth like that to happen,and we dont wanna break up as well.He understands me,I understand him,so what should we do since we are so different? If we turn back to just friends,it won't feel normal...friends can't be sayin "I love u"its not straight! what do we do?
2007-01-08 05:56:37 · 7 answers · asked by Sweety pie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanx 4 answerin people,but what should I tell him now? I know he's really 17 cuz..I dunno,lets 4get that part,lets say he really is 17..
2007-01-08 06:13:23 · update #1
But I know I aint gonna have sex with him,even if he is really 17 or he's 70...so assuming he is who he says he is,then what should we do now?break up?stay friends? what?
2007-01-08 06:20:09 · update #2
OMG he sounds like a total pervert...he's admitting to you already that he's obsessed with sex and that is truly a legitimate and serious problem. If he's like this with you, can you imagine who else he's like this with?
Sounds like it could lead to something totally dangerous. You sound way too young to be getting involved with someone like this.
2007-01-08 06:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey assess the situation properly! First-of-all, the way you met the guy itself doesn't seem to be right! You don't know him on a personal level yet. A person on the net can be as nice as a sweet-pie but in reality can be a goon!!
God forbid, but he could even have faked all the things he told you. I guess its time you wake up. Think about it again before meeting him. You will be in a very vulnerable position if you meet once! And he being obsessed with sex says it all! I will not be surprised if he's planning this as a whole drama.
Hey again, don't take me as a pessimist. There are good guys out there. But something here is amiss... Sorry... But it's your life afterall. Give some thought to your grey cells. And at the end of the day, do what you think is right. But be ready to face the consequences!
2007-01-08 06:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Manoj Sterex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are really on the wrong track with this guy...and I'll tell you why. You only know what you've seen on the internet and it could all be lies. He could show you a picture of anyone. He could be twice your age or older. He could be a child molester. You sound very young and that may be why he's spending so much time "training you" to believe and be confident in him You say he's into sex and you're not. Where do you think you're going with that? Do you think he'll respect you now that you've put up with his sexy antics online?
This is a really dumb stupid bonehead thing you're doing and you may find out the hard way as soon as you meet him for real.
Now, after 99% of the people here tell you it's a bad idea that you have, I'm sure that you're still gonna meet him anyway, right? Then you'll be back asking why was the guy such a jerk after he ***** you over.
2007-01-08 05:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I can tell you this..
If you don't both agree on not having sex before marriage, it is almost impossible to do, unless you have a great support system. If you feel strongly about it, you should find someone who feels the same way.
It may not feel normal at first being just friends, but time heals all... this is an important matter, and you only get the chance to make the right decision once...
There are more guys out there! Find someone you can agree with on this, its worth the wait !
Good luck to you !
2007-01-08 06:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to read what you wrote. you said and I quote "he knows if we are 2gether and I dont wanna get down,he won't be able to control himself and we'll have problems there" what does that mean? That If you say no he'll go ahead and rape you anyway. Firstly all men are able to control themselves. The ones who end up raping pretty little sweety pies say they can't control themselves so that you feel special that you can get him to that point where his mind turns off and so they don't have to take responsibility for their actions once he forces you to have sex. You are smarter than this on line predators have these kind of relationship with girls for months they brainwash you into believing its okay to do what they want he clearly only cares about what he wants and what you want means nothing because to him you are nothing. he probably have five other girls just like you on line right now.Recognize the game sweety
2007-01-08 06:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First friends CAN say "I love you" , "There are all sorts of relationships." somebody said that to me once
I think if he pressures you even a little to have sex when you are not ready and don't want to, then he is a real jerk and you should leave him.
I also think its unreasonable to wait till you are married for sex. DO make sure you love or at least really like him first though.
Also, at some point what you think becomes what matters, around 18 or 20 usually.
2007-01-08 06:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go and meet him take 1or2 friends with you and meet in a public place...LOL
2007-01-08 06:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋