Does anyone know a poem that will let us as for money as gift?

Question

We want to put a poem in our wedding invitation to ask for money
instead of gifts does anyone know any please?

Names are Ray and Debbie

Ashlie grow up and join the real grown up
world - I have been asked for money as a weddng gift before and was not offended in any way - needs must honey - pity the man that marries a self opinionated person like you.

Answer 1

I can't believe how many people are saying it's rude to ask for money or even to include information about your gift list with the invitation. One person even said that bringing a gift is optional!! In my opinion it's the exact opposite - providing this info makes it easier for your guests to ensure you get what you need. & not bringing a gift is incredibly rude, unless the guest in question is broke, & if I was in that situation I'd feel SO guilty & be apologising profusely for years (or until I could afford a belated gift!). If you go to someone's house for dinner it's polite to take a bottle of wine or something, as a thank you for cooking dinner...so with the average cost of a wedding being £20000 (which for 100 guests would be £200 per person) a small token of thanks is definitely a politeness. Using a poem to ask for cash sounds lovely. Good luck finding something you like & I hope your wedding goes well.

Answer 2

Sorry, but I agree with Ashlie. If I were to get an invitation that mentioned ANYTHING about giving a gift (let alone cash!) I would toss it in the garbage. No amount of cleverly rhymed poems would hide such a thinly veiled request for cash. So very tacky and rude to your guests. That being said, you could mention to your bridal party, that IF anyone asks what you would like, they could then say "Well, I think what they most need is a monetary gift or maybe a gift card." But really, it should never be asked on an invitation. By the way...I AM a grown-up (31) bride to be living in "the real world." Manners have seriously become missing from society today. Ughh.

Just wanted to pass on a great website for all those tacky brides who want to make their wedding into a money makng venture.

http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/invites/einvites.shtml

Click on the "Tacky Invitations" section, and you can read what people REALLY think about invitations that tell guests what to "give."

Answer 3

Firstly - congratulations on your engagement and on your forthcoming wedding.
Not very good at poetry but i have another idea!!
If your not religious and are having a registry wedding you can try incorporating 'weddings from around the world'. This means that you pick a selection of wedding traditions from different cultures and include at your own.
For example - In Cyprus there is a traditional money dance at the reception where the couple dance and the guests pin money onto the bride and grooms clothing (for experience this can hurt!!). In Turkey they have a dance where sweets or coins are put into a clay pot and the bride are groom dance with the pot, then the young girls at the reception (have to be young as they have to be virgins) dance with the pot and then at the end of the dance the last girl dancing with the pot smashes it to the ground. If it breaks it is lucky for the bride and groom and the kids have fun by chasing all the sweets / coins. In Italy rice and coins are thrown instead of confetti!!
Include these customs in the wedding invite and hey presto!!
These are just 3 ideas but i am sure there are more!! This helps get around the money bit!!
Sorry about the long winded response but i hope this helps.

Answer 4

check back in 30 minutes and i'll edit my answer to include one i've written.
Can you edit your question giving yours and partners first names? Cheers

DebbieRay has a certain ring, as soon we take another
A wedding band to seal our love, ‘Forsaking all others’
Matrimony begins as our hands are placed together,
Watch this space as our life gets better and better!

As we begin our life, together, two souls as one.
We would ask you all for blessings and good will.
You’re probably aware that we have all the things we need
What would help us most is a gift you may think chilled.

We humbly ask you to see your way to granting our request.
For our Honeymoon we need cash! Simple and pure.
So, please treasured friends and honoured guests
Don’t buy us gifts as we are sure,

That money, whilst cold, is, for what we call
Then if there’s something that we need
Off we go and get it,
Then bring it home,
And it wont be a struggle at all!

So we ask you kindly, please,
Send us the gifts we really need.
Let us have something we need the most-est
Rather than end up with 20 toasters!

Maybe a little long. Maybe you should simply be short and honest and include a note sayin something like

A house we have and bathroom too
so we can make a splash.
To be honest, all we need now,
is our dear friends gifts of cash!!

CONGRATULATIONS ON JOINING THE WORLD OF MARRIED BLISS!

Answer 5

I guess you shouldn't be upset at the answers you are getting.
No, don't know of a poem, because that is just not done; don't get mad again, but it is tacky and rude to ask for money. If you haven't money, then scale down the type of wedding you are having.
If you truly don't want gifts, that is appropriate to say, but not with the proviso that you would like money instead. That would be really offensive.

Answer 6

i am also a grown up in the grown up world and any poem or the like IS tacky and greedy. for a start, you dont ask for a present, a present is optional. i too wouldn't even entertain an invitation with a list or tacky poem inside. this question comes up a lot in this section and it makes me wonder are people just getting married to rake in the dosh or to lay on a great day for friends and family. the worst i've seen(in my town) is a couple that went away to get married, then had a 'sausage and sandwich' night when they came back to collect cash.

Answer 7

Most places that I have seen recommend that you tell everyone involved in your planning (parents, maids, groomsmen, etc.) that you have most things you need, but you've still got bills to pay! Then it's up to them to spread the word, not you.

Pointing out registries, asking directly for cash (or contributions to anything) is often construed as tacky. But if someone comes up to you to ask where you're registered, just tell them straight up that you appreciate the thought, but you're low on dough and need some help repaying those dang student loans (or whatever). Make light of it. If people really care about you and not convention, they'll understand. If not, well, sell the blender on eBay!

Answer 8

I'm totally w/Ashlie-thats the best depeiction of what a big chunk of your guests will be thinking I have heard of.............she's totally right. You probably should leave the personal attacks out of things next time, you may not like it, but people are entitled to their opinion, and you did ask for it!
You may get some money, but I really think you will get more stuff to at least take back if you will not ask for anything in particular...I think you will come out far worse your way of doing things.

Answer 9

Just go register at Bed Bath & Beyond they give you CASH back for returns off you wedding registry. Some people are still going to give you gifts off the registry but you can't expect them not to. Just register there and get your money in the end, this way you won't offend people.

Answer 10

ok well here I go copy pasting this again!

"The recipient can't be bothered with actual gifts that you spent time and money to pick out, and instead would prefer to be a money-grubbing selfish boor. So cough up cash or gift cards only, or don't come."

Ok, what is with people?! I think I'm gonna start copy/pasting this answer because this is becoming a very common question! It is soooooo unacceptable to ask for money. People are spending their time and money to get you something, and you have no right whatsoever to dictate what they do with their hard-earned dollars.

It is highly unacceptable to mention gifts of any sort of the wedding invitation, you are requesting a person's presence at an event, not asking for gifts on a wedding invitation, its a WEDDING invitation, get it strait. If you want to include where you are registered on a SHOWER invitation, I could deal with that, but once again, you don't get to stipulate what a person gives you.

The best you can hope for is to take the stuff back and get money or store credit. If I saw someone asking for only money on an invitation, you'd be lucky if I gave you ANYTHING!

You may think this answer is mean or rude-but this is exactly what will be going through your guests heads, so bear that in mind!





Oh and I need to grow up? Sweetie if you can't take honesty then don't ask the question. If you don't like the opinion, that doesn't make it wrong, etiquitte says its rude to do what you are wanting to do and its going to piss some people off. Maybe you wouldn't be one of those people, but I am-I don't appreciate having someone tell me what to do with MY money....and their's nothing wrong with that. Truth hurts I guess.....

I am getting married soon and I know money would come in really handy, but its not up to me to say what people can and can't give me. I am grateful for whatever anyone gives us because theirs a lot more to giving a gift than what I unwrap...someone thought of me when they picked that out and I appreciate that. If they happen to give me money, I appreciate that too. You are grateful for any thought anyone puts in to make your day special, If you can't grasp that concept, then it is YOU who needs to grow up.

Also, having opinions doesn't make me a bad person to marry, it makes me a strong woman. Low ball comments like that against me and my fiance are uncalled for.