We went to a party at a co workers house last nite & I spent 3 of the 4 hours carrying him, he would cry as soon as I put him down! He makes me carry him around at home too. Any ideas on how to help before my back breaks? Thanks!
2007-01-08 05:45:30 · 6 answers · asked by girlsstarr2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I brought him because we are a very close group of people and he goes with me to my friends houses all the time, it was our holiday party and so we had presents and food, we didn't get all dressed up and have drinks, we watched football and played trivial persuit!
2007-01-08 06:11:17 · update #1
First of all, a toddler can't make you do anything! I have had four of them trust me they aren't the boss and as long as you believe that he is making you, you won't be able to stop it! Your child just realizes that by crying you listen and of course at a party, what better time to show who is the boss! I say at home tell him that he is your big helper get him involved but tell him things like we are going to race to see who can get done first my kids at this age understood this and show him when he is done what a big boy he was by pulling him up on your lap. For instance when he wants a drink and you go to get it tell him that you are going to race to the kitchen to get a cup that way you aren't packing him there then get the drink and race back to the other room when he wins and trust me you will let him...lol.....pull him up on your lap and tell him that he is getting so big and so fast you can do this all the time and before you know it you won't be packing him and he won't be upset about it. If it doesn't work then just tell him no and keep walking it may upset you to listen to him crying but eventually he will come into the room you are in and persistance is key! Good luck honey but if you let him think he is running the house now by throwing a fit just wait it only get's crazier the older they get!
2007-01-08 06:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok what everone said but also be aware of this, some children that have this problem have anxiety and well my son was autistic. He cried when I would set him down and the crying would go on for hours. If what everone else tells you does not work and the problem continues you need to get your child evaluated. I don't mean to scare you I just want you to look at all sides. But do what they said first work on it a little at a time, and then reward your child by picking him up for a few minutes but put him right back down. Make sure that the moments on the ground are fun and to his benefit and he will want to come back if there is nothing serious going on that is.
You can find more information about anxiety in children on the web. And their is a lot of helpful hints out there.
2007-01-08 14:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why would you take a toddler to a party? And you carried him the whole time?? No wonder the children of today are turning out the way they are. Parents today are unblievable!
And please don't leave him in the grocery store floor crying and having a fit. We are there too to buy groceries...and your unruly child does not add anything to the dread of grocery shopping! Do that at home...please!
Ok, tell him he has two legs to walk on...and that is what he is going to do...walk on them! Let him cry...I don't think any child has died from crying over not getting his way.
2007-01-08 14:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by TexasRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start at home by not carrying him as much. Because he cries and you pick him up he has realized that he can get what he wants this way.
Make it a game to walk with you / beside you rather than being carried.
The more you carry him when he cries, the more he will expect it.
2007-01-08 13:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by mhcjgds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be consistant, i know it can be very hurtfull and anoying to hear him cry, but he knows he gets you that way. start at home and even in supermarkets, i done it, people will look at you but i didn't care, i left my girl screaming and crying on the floor in a supermarket, did my groceries, ofcourse it will bother people but F them, start by taking her for only one or two things to get , same as at home, do your thing, and praise him for if he behaves and does not cry ,
good luck with it, i know it can be very hard and very easy to pick him up because it shuts him up, but he knows so be strong
2007-01-08 13:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by dutchcutie68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be consistantly firm and tell him he has to stand or walk like a big boy.
2007-01-08 14:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋