My man and I have been going through some problems latley. We've never cheated on each other or anything, but whenever we fight he accuses me of cheating. Thats because he hit me before so i took off on him for the weekend a couple of times, to have drinks with my girls. He hasnt hit me since and I havent taken off on him. Now he says he wants me to act like his wife and not like his girlfriend. What does that mean? I am his girlfriend. We are not married and he has no intention of marrying me yet so why does he say that? He said that someday he might want to get married, but i dont understand.Whats does a girlfriend act like and why doesnt he want me to act like his girlfriend? I dont get it....... HELP!
2007-01-08 05:41:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Candace, there are a lot of better men out there. If you have no intention of marrying your boyfriend, then I suggest you find someone who will treat you with kindness and respect.
2007-01-08 05:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, when someone starts accusing you of cheating and they have no grounds to do so, they may have cheated at some point themselves. Also, you are not his wife. If that's what he wants, he should make steps towards that move. Being husband and wife is not a joke. But it sounds like he saying that to control you and the relationship more. Be careful. Only you would know if he has a controlling nature about him. It sounds like it to me. And if that is the case, him asking you to play the part of wifey means the controlling is only getting worse. Really stop and think about if this is what you really want in a relationship.
2007-01-08 13:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st. I have always believed, that when one is accused of cheating, the accuser is the one cheating. If he has no intention of marrying you, you shouldn't play the role of his wife. That some day might not come. Have you asked him to explain all this to you? If he can't, that's because, he doesn't understand it himself.He won't marry you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you. Ask yourself this, are you happy with him and the things he is asking of you? If you're not, then maybe, it's time for you to move on and give him some time to think about what he really wants. Don't play the role of his wife, if he never intends to make you his wife.
2007-01-08 14:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by pysmith429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he hit you EVER, then he's not worth your time.
And he probably means that he wants you to do everything for him and basically be his slave with the wife comment. Because now you have friends and hang out with them and all that, which some guys see as "girlfriend", and then when the girl gives all of that up to serve only him is seen as "wife". Obviously this is sooo wrong and not what you want. Leave him and save yourself the trouble.
2007-01-08 13:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE, LEAVE, LEAVE this man (well- hes not a man)!! I cant believe he hit you and you are still with him. You need help if you think thats ok. WOW. Think about it- if he hit you once.... do NOT marry this guy. Get some self esteem sweetheart or you are in serious trouble. Im not even gonna get into the cheating part- this guy is a loser- pleeeeeeeeeeeeease find someone else!!
2007-01-08 13:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't start acting like his wife until he makes you his wife. Men think they are supposed to get everything for free without having to work for it. If he is accusing you of cheating then, he is probably guilty of cheating. It is his conscience speaking out. He feels bad about what he did and now he is scared that you are going to do this to him so, he is accusing you of doing it to try to make himself feel better. Girlfriend means you still have your freedom to make your own decisions and do what YOU want to do when you want to do it.
2007-01-08 14:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the guy has some issues. He may be accusing you of cheating b/c he himself is cheating. I say you get counseling or some sort of outside help b/c he does sound VERY controlling. Good luck!
2007-01-08 13:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by senn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl what u need to do is just leave, seriously no joke. first of all no true man should ever lay a hand on his lady to hurt her. not even once! and if you dont know what he means, just ask him straight out what that means. if he cant explain what he wants from you and you dont understand then whats the point of staying together? hes confused and confusing you!
2007-01-08 13:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to be a lot more that just boyfriend and girlfriend... and thats just a step towards him telling you that... but for any man to hit a woman... iz CRAZY and shouldnt be back into your life...and if he is i think friends would have been good enough.... gurl if he hits you again... dont be dumb and dont go back to him... u can always do better. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-01-08 14:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by U dOnT kNo BoUt .:~LJ~:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you to move on. If he doesn't want to marry you there's a problem. Not with you but with him. Why waste your life with someone like him when you could be happy with some one else
2007-01-08 13:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋