We are college students, and this would help greatly with my time management. But I feel like then I would be stifling him or making him feel crunched for time. Like what if his buddies want to hang out spontaneously on one of our planned dates? I'd like to be supportive and let them hang out, but I'd also miss our planned thing. What should be done? I am really in a time crunch this semester. Thanks!
2007-01-08 05:41:29 · 8 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's what I would do. yes, have a planned time, but let if know if he has something come up with the friends that night spur of the moment that you can study instead at that time, and then you set up time to be together during a planned study time since you have already comepensated by switching your schedule. If you are accomodating in your schedule for when things come up, then it can work out good. Plus guys like it when a girl can go with the flow and is flexible.
2007-01-08 05:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jodiontop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try evaluating what is most important to you right now and be prepared for him to be supportive or reject the idea entirely. Have you two been dating very long? Do you have a casual relationship or are you deeply committed and planning to spend the rest of your life together.
It sounds like you have a lot going on otherwise you wouldn't need to set up a schedule that dictates when you will see your boyfriend. Personally, I think it's a great idea. If this is what you need to do to get through the semester, then I would tell him. If he truly cares about you then he will agree to the schedule and whatever it takes for you to achieve your goals. However, don't be surprised if he gets offended by it. Maybe this isn't his style. His response will show you how serious he is about you and if you both have similar goals and values. If this is a casual, fairly new relationship, you can't be certain how long it will last. Don't compromise your education and dreams for that. If he does agree, I would be prepared for him to cancel some of your planned dates. After all, he also has a life and you must accommodate his needs as well. There should be room for some spontaneity in life. Good Luck.
2007-01-08 13:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are both students, he should understand and appreciate the timetabling of events. Just leave a little room for spontaniety, eg... study extra hard once in a while to just 'run away'.
You can both obviosly have to schedule your time together, and if he understands this then his spontaneous time with his buddies will not intrude as often as you think.
Remember, this is a very important time in both your education and foundation for future careers. So sacrificing some time now will only prove beneficial in the future.
2007-01-08 13:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is a two way street.How would you feel if he did this to you?I think that you just might end up with more study /alone time than you really planned on.Try setting down and talking,can you study together.Make some allowances for the unexpected things do happen.
2007-01-08 13:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to schedule in your boyfriend you really need to think about if you should have a boyfriend at this time. If I were you I would just go with the flow and let him know that you will be really busy this semester.
2007-01-08 13:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try hanging out all in a group? Do you get along with his friends? Try it.
2007-01-08 13:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try to control him that will just push him away. guys have a thing where they make fun of a friend if he goes with his girl instead of his boys, they call him whipped
2007-01-08 13:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. And before long you'll have all the study time you need.
2007-01-08 13:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by convoiceofreason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋