we talking about if something like this happen he said he was pro life. now i have emailed him called him and sent texts no answer as of yet. he has gone back home to the UKWhat do i do? How can i get him to answer me what can i say please help a am freaking out.
i have even sent a text saying simple abort or not what else can i do?
2007-01-08 05:34:21 · 23 answers · asked by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as i am an americain and it happen in the states
2007-01-08 05:40:46 · update #1
for the record i have a name and i knew him long the 1 day i just met him at a bar he was on vaction for a month in the states. just don't have an address also he was in british army can i hunt him down that why
2007-01-08 06:05:17 · update #2
How long ago did you write him? The comforting answer would be that he hasn't had a chance yet to get back to you but I'm thinking it's a case of if he hasn't gotten in contact with you yet, then it means he doesn't want to shoulder the responsibility of this child. If you have no way of getting in contact with him other than calls and emailing than you're probably on your own. It's up to you to decide what you want to do. Don't freak out, there's no need to though I can understand your anxiety. Calm down and rationally think about it. Do you want it? If you don't think you can take care of the child on your own, do you want to abort it? Or do you want to give it up for adoption? Just remember that the father will probably not be there for you or the baby.
2007-01-08 05:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm definitely no expert, but I suppose if it was me, I'd see if I'd want to have a baby, what would my society think of single moms (certain ones are more conservative compared to others), would I be able to support the child on my own. And finally, IF i have the baby would it hurt to look at him/her everyday and think of the guy and get hurt all over again.
So I hope everything works well. Do u know where he works? U could call there since this requires desperate measures, he's bound to pick up some how...all the best!
2007-01-08 05:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by sugarscamp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't have alot of options. If you choose to keep the baby, eventually you can have a paternity test done and then take him to court and he will be forced to pay child support. However, that is a long and lengthy process. It doesn't look like he is going to help you make a decision and so you much bit the bullet. If you want to child, have it, raise it and most importantly love it. If you don't think you can do it alone there are other options.
2007-01-08 05:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by a25isha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a question that only you can answer, you have to sit down and think this through do you raise this baby by yourself, because if he is avoiding your calls now he already gave you his answer that he wants nothing to do with this baby. even if you are pro-life you have to understand that this baby will likely never have his father in his/her life and that can be a problem growing up. raising kids with both parents is hard enough, you have to ask yourself are you ready for this? if not you should consider the alternatives, but if you really aren't ready to be a mom full time then you shouldn't have this baby it would be unfair to the child
2007-01-08 05:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Weapon X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to pay child support. Simple as that. You are out of sight and out of his mind. Next step? Get a lawyer who know international law. And from this day forward follow your brain......Not your play thing. And most of all best to you. Today you are carrying the world on your shoulder so seek out a good friend.
2007-01-08 05:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...you are now a single parent. Take it like it is. He was a dead beat and the only thing you can do is hire an attorney to hunt him down to pay child support.
2007-01-08 05:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decide if you are keeping the baby and if so plan to raise your child as a single parent. This guy is obviously a jerk and you are probably better off without him.
2007-01-08 05:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by lonestarlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ever want to sleep with someone you met at a bar and not demand using a condom? Don't you realize you could have exposed yourself to diseases. What is wrong with you and even this guy. You had the guts to discuss that he is pro life but didn't have the guts to demand he wear a condom. There is something wrong with you!!!
2007-01-08 05:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
are you sure it's his? that is what i'd be thinking if i was him.....you were a one night stand...that's that...yes he should step up if indeed it is his but, what are the odds. i don't mean to be rude or sound mean, but if you slept with him after the bar how many others are there. i apologize that is mean and implies other things, but i'm guessing he's thinking about the same thing.
2007-01-08 05:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well nothing much since you have no name or address or anything to go my so pretty much your stuck with a baby and no father as far as i see
sorry to say that but that is how it looks
2007-01-08 05:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋