This guy who i like likes me. We've made out and there is a definate attraction there, the only problem is, he says he doesn't want a relationship. He has made it clear he likes me as more than a friend, but has recently come out of a really heavy and serious 2 year relationship and he says hes not ready for another one. We both suggested a 'bit of fun' and i'd be happy to do that because its better than nothing and i am really sexually attracted to him, plus he is off to uni soon, so a relationship probably wouldnt be worth the hassle, i just dont know if i should go for it. He invited me round to his house and i said maybe. I really want to just have 'a bit of fun' but i dont know if i should. I may get too attacted to him but i want to so much! What do you think i should do? I was just curious as to other people's opinions. thanks. x
2007-01-08 05:32:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would keep my distance a bit, keep friendly but hold back a little. He may need time to recouperate from his last relationship.
2007-01-08 05:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by button_mushroom_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy is simply looking for erotic comfort. If this is your first time at having sex, then don't do it. If you do it, you will regret not having saved yourself for someone that you are actually in love with. Sex may feel good, but at the end of the day. it feels much better when your heart is in it too. Don't degrade sex as "a little fun", it means much more than that. In our life, we're going to meet a lot of people we like, but it doesn't mean that we have to go and have "a little fun" with every guy we're sexually attracted to. It just wouldn't be right, in my opinion.
Hope You Make The Right Decision!! :-)
2007-01-08 05:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Roberta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want a bit of fun try a theme park. you should run a mile from users and not become one yourself. don't you deserve some love and a meaningful relationship? what makes you think you should be used like a prostitute that doesn't charge? really look at why your self-esteem is so low. empty relations are not fun they make you feel lonely and worthless so where's the fun?
2007-01-08 06:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be a good experience for you
Cherry. It took me a long time to learn how to appreciate and enjoy someone without letting my feelings get the best of me. Its like learning to love, but not possessing and not being miserable because you can't have that person all to yourself. Live for the moment, be thankful for it, and don't worry about what you can't change. Yes, go for it, give it your all, and learn to let go dear!!
2007-01-08 05:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell if you want it go for it... you only live once right? if you do want to make it a perminant relationship after that then it doesnt matter... it sounds as if you already want that anyway... explain the situation to him if you are still not sure what to do... thats all i can say really... in the end it is your decision... base it on how you feel... you will be much happyer in life that way :)... good luck
2007-01-08 05:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by natalia121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you see at least a 20% chance of something longterm.
Otherwise not worth the emotional toll or the chance of disease either.
Maybe if you are the kind of person who can just jump on somebody and not let it effect anything much. If you are then go for it. Also, if you are I feel really sorry for you.
2007-01-08 05:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. You will probably be thinking what he is doing and wondering if he will ever come back. I think you will start something you will have a hard time ending. Especially if you get emotionally connected and the sex is good. Save yourself some heartache.
2007-01-08 05:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by VC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could go 2 ways... you could end up liking him a lot or just having a little fun... so it is really up to you.. take your chances!
2007-01-08 05:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure..
Go for it..
Maybe it will become a long term relationship..
He may enjoy you so much that he can't let you go...
Hard for most guys to let go of the best sex they ever had...
2007-01-08 05:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself become attached to this person. If you think having sex with him will make you become attached, don't do it. Most people with some kind of heart, soul, and dignity become attached when they have sex with someone, so to be safe, just cut it off.
2007-01-08 05:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋