just heard my dad has cancer....?

Question

it feels like my whole life has just come to an end.. we just heard my dad has brain cancer and only 6 months left to live. his left arm and leg has just gone numb and he can't use them. he tried to walk today, but he fell down and couldn't stand up. i just finished high school and is on my way to university. how do i start a new year with such bad news ?? what do i do, how can i help him?? he is everything to me, i can never live without him


he is the best dad a girl can ask for.. i need to talk to someone, but don't know who. today i was at a funeral of one of my teachers, she had cancer too. i'm heartbroken. dont wanna live no more. why does God do this to people who live the right way? HELP SOMEONE, this is my daddy!! i can't lose him... not now

Answer 1

Oh Dear one I do know exactly what you're going through. I lost my daddy not directly to cancer but complication do to the surgery on his lung to remove the cancer. I lost him 6/20/05 and I was a daddies girl. I would love to tell you that I'm doing better but everyday I cry and scream to the top of my lungs and I have not fully grasped the idea that he is not here for me any longer. I miss his voice, the touch of his hand,those strong hands. I miss the way he smelled and I miss the way he encourged me in all my endouvers. He picked the guitar and sung and I miss family gatherings where he always performed. He was a man with a million jokes and a kind word for everyone. He loved children and if there was anyone in need he would honestly give them the shirt off his back if thats all he had to give. But you will live because of him and you'll still try to make him proud of you,because one day you know in your heart you'll see him again,because God did not do this to him and one day you'll know that too when the anger starts to subside. God does not make man sick. sickness is a curse from satan but healing is a gift from God and I'll be praying for your dad, for healing and for you. For now grab a bible the word of God and search out the scriptures on sickness and on healing and pray, pray,pray! May God touch and heal your broken heart the way that He has slowly begun to pick up the pieces of my heart and begun to put it back together again but I know that their will be a big piece missing till I see him again. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU WHOLE ON YOUR JOURNEY THROUGH LIFE!!!

Answer 2

Listen, I will pray for your dad and for you and the rest of your family too. It's terrible what you are going through but you will get through it, even though it seems so unfair right now.

I don't know why God takes such good people, when others who are awful walk the streets. However, don't blame God, just pray to him to help your dad and to get you through this.

My husband lost his dad at a young age. His dad was his best friend and they did everything together. It's been 14 years since his dad died and it's been tough on him. However, time really does heal and you will always be able to remember the good times you shared with your wonderful father, who loves you.

Please be strong, especially around your dad because he doesn't want to leave you and he will want assurance that you can carry-on and still live a happy life if he does pass away.

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your father's illness. God doesn't do this to anyone and it's not possible for us to always understand why He allows it to happen to good people. I know you are upset and terrified at the thought of having to live without such a special person in your life. The best way you can help your daddy is to spend as much time as possible with him; cherish the time you have together; and make sure you let him know how much he means to you. It is hard for you to think of anything but him at this time but God will give you the strength you need no matter what the outcome. And trust me, even if the worst happens, your daddy will ALWAYS be with you ...in your heart, in your memory, and in the decisions you make in life. My daddy died four years ago and I talk to him, think of him, feel his presence every day. I had him for 60 years and it still wasn't enough. But God will make a way where there is no way. I will pray for you and for your father.

Answer 4

First you need to calm down and talk to GOD.It may be time for your Dad to go but you have something alot of people don't get ,A chance to say goodbye.Maybe there will be a miracle and I've said a prayer for you asking for one but there might not be so you need to prepare yourself and him.Go and do the things he's always wanted to{Illness permitting}.Say the things you always wanted to and never did.Love him enough to last a lifetime and make good memories to remember him by.My dad died suddenly when i was 26. It took my breath away and I felt so bad because I didn't get to say what I needed to say. You have been given the gift of time.time to do and say everything you've always wanted to say.Make the best of this.Save your mourning for when he's gone.Have yourself a good cry then put on a smile for him and give him everything you've got to give.Put school off for a little if you need to.It will still be there when he's gone and your time with him will be priceless.I feel your pain and I wish this would just go away .I'll say more prayers for you and your dad and jusr remember that you are not alone and that GOD is listening.

Answer 5

Ok I can understand that this is very hard news to take. Spend as much time as you can with him but dont put off college. He would not want you to do that (you could of course go to the local commnity college instead of university-cheaper and you can be home to help your Mom.) Do you have a pastor you could talk to? How about a close relative or friend of family? I think you need someone who will be there all the thru this next year and more for you. All good luck to you and your family- As long as there if life there is hope that 'something' might happen - Have faith.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. You just have to remember that God won't give you anything you can't handle. He is shaping your life and these things are happening for a reason. You may not know what it is now, but you will. A lot of the time I wonder why God does things like this to good people, but he has a plan in mind and you have to remember that. I can't say I know what it's like to lose a parent, but just try to live your life for your father. He would want you to be happy. Be there for him and love him. That is all he needs right now is your love and he will be happy.

Answer 7

A family friend has lung cancer that has recently spread to his brain. His daughter is in a similar situation you are. She's calling every doctor and reading about every new medical break through she can find. At the same time he feels like his time has come and that he is ready to die and has been telling her to calm down and get on with her life.
Why don't you ask your dad what he wants and how he feels in this whole situation. You should probably research some hospitals to see if they have any experimental treatments that might work for your dad.
GOOD LUCK!
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Answer 8

Hi, I have recently lost my mother and father. My dad to cancer about 4 years ago and my mom last year to cancer as well.

I was extremely close to my mother and I had the same feelings that you describe above as well. YOU WILL SURVIVE. Don't give up hope. Take and enjoy EVERY minute you can with your daddy. School can even wait.

Please know that many people have gone through and ARE going through what you are. You can email me ANY time at [e-mail] and I will talk to you. I'm so sorry to hear your news...but I do want to reiterate...there IS hope.

Answer 9

I'm soooo sorry for you and your family. I felt the same way about my Dad too. I lost him 8 yrs ago now to lung cancer! My whole family was around his bed as he left this world. I comfort myself knowing he is still with me and alway will be. I still cry at the thought of him and miss him like crazy! We all have to move on when it's our time. Your Father will no longer suffer or be sick! You have to know your Dad will want you to go on, and live your life to the fullest. Put off going to school for a year and spend as much time as you can with him now and to help your family. Then pick yourself back up and make your Dad proud, by finishing your schooling and going ahead with your life plans, like he would want you to do. Try and show him your smiling face everyday and take them one at a time. God bless you, your Dad and your family.

Answer 10

My precious dear child. Cancer no longer has to be a death sentence. There is help. Some of us, due to not having money as other, have had to look to alternative health care ways to solve our problems. In so doing, we have found that many of the medicine's that are made today from herbs by the pharmaceutical companies seem to work just as well if not better if left in the state that God made them in. You see, God makes no mistakes. His work is perfection, even if mankind in their great egos want to take all the credit.

There is an herb found in Southeast Asia, but obtainable here in the US, by the name Artemesia, and having the chemical makeup
as hydrogen peroxide, which by the way distroys cancer cell in the petry dish. Used by the bioengineering professors at the University of Washington. Dr. Henry Lai and Dr. Narenda Singh speak of it as a cousin to oxygen therapy. Key in its effect are two oxygen atoms hooked together within the herbs active molecule. Where cancer grows, there is an abundance of iron. When these two oxyen atoms come into contact with the iron it explodes killing the cancer cell. Drs. Lai and Singh experimented in the laboratory on cancer cells documenting 100 % kill rate of breast-cancer-cell and leukemia cells in just hours.
Cancer showed resistance to common chemotherapy drugs but absolutely no resistance to artemisinin.


Dr.Hoang reported that 500 mg twice daily of oral artemisinin by itself is the dosage he has been using with great success. No food except was given to his patients with artemisinin except milk or yorgert to keep down extra iron consumption. Milk has the smallest iron content. You also need some fat for absorption enhancement.

I know of a young mother who also had brain cancer and took
Artemisinin intervenious and with just a sort while it had completely disappeared. I met her too quite by accident. But you know, I really don't believe in accidents.
I hope this information will give you both some hope dear. First and formost. Don't fall apart, your dad needs your support and strength to help him with this fight. Your love is a great weapon for his survival. Use it wisely, and always.
Grandma