Im saved and so is my boyfriend, we do many unholy things, but im ready for change to get my relationship right with god. My boyfriend on the other hand, he is not quite ready for that change yet. What should I do, because I want to change my ways and I want him to follow, but he said he wants to do it when hes ready. What do I do, because when I change I dont want to have any negative energy on the way I lived my life before, while hes still doing what he wants?
2007-01-08 05:23:53 · 4 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all....it is great that you are wanting to get things right with God once again. You can't depend on your man right now. You just need to worry about yourself at this point. Once he sees the change in you and everything, if he loves you...he will follow. Do what God wants you to do. If you do, he will make sure that you get the man of your dreams. Take it slow and do what is right in your heart. I admire your stand with God and keep smiling!! God bless you. Remember that you are the blessed of the Lord!
2007-01-08 05:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by T&E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which relationship is most important?
How important are you to your boyfriend?
How important is your boyfriend to you?
Does he understand that you have decided to change certain things in your life and that may change some things in your relationship?
I don't know your age... but you might consider joining a discussion group / bible study / social group which would allow you to discuss and interact with other christian friends in your area and receive some peer counseling.
All too often people decide they are changing for a relationship...
but they didn't change anything regarding the relationship that their partner understands. Or they changed a hundred things... but none of it was what needed changing. :-)
having come from a very bad situation... i can tell you that you both need to be able to be in a situation where you can find out what your relationship to each other is and how that relates to how your are living your lives. Otherwise you may as well just have your eyes and ears closed.
God doesn't call for the end of your relationship.
He calls for a relationship with him.
2007-01-08 05:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Dale W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a Christian we live in accordance to our relationship with God and Jesus on how the bible says we should live. The bible says the time to repent is now, not tomorrow because tomorrow for you or your boyfriend may never come. Also, your boyfriend is blinded by sin because we as christians never work on "our" schedule, it's God's time and as the bible says, in God's time the time to repent and turn away from sin is NOW. Look at this as a test...who do you love more? Your boyfriend and sins of the flesh or your Lord Jesus and God. He is being put to the same test and he has already decided what is more important to him. As a christian you also know that as far as man and woman are concerned if you two were to progress and get married and his attitude towards God's will is the same as it is now there will be many problems because he is to be the head of the household and would want you to submit but you are only to submit to your husband as you would unto the lord and if his moral compass is not in alignment with the will of God than you need to follow God and not him and he would see that as his wife rebelling and not understand why because like the bible says, sin is blinding. Just know that what happens here on this world is temporary and what you give up now is insignifcant in comparison to eternity that you give up if you give up the Lord by not following his will. I would suggest giving your boyfriend a choice, either he can be with you following the will of God or you will follow the will of the Lord without him because God will not accept being made 2nd to anything.
2007-01-08 05:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kathleen P: Please stop it. You're not helping anyone.
To the asker, I don't really know what kind of "unholy things" you're talking about. If you're thinking of making a significant change in the way you live your life and it could impact your boyfriends, then you need to make sure that he is going to go along with it and respect your decision -- and that goes for every person, not just Christians.
Whoever you're with needs to respect your decisions. If they aren't able to do this, then perhaps it's time to take them out of your life.
2007-01-08 05:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋