I'm 28 yrs. old, married and have one child and I'm originally from Mass. A couple of years ago my mother and stepfather moved to NC to be closer to my brother and his family and to have an early retirement. Last year my husband daughter and I moved to down to be closer to her and since then my brother and his wife split up and she moved to AZ with their daughter. My husband and I like being near my mom it's very convenient for us but we really can't see us living here and financially we are struggling. MY husband is from Michigan and ended up getting a good job out there and we bought our first house. We are in the process of moving in a few weeks. I know this is such a great oppurtunity for us but my mother makes me feel so bad for leaving. I don't think she cares if we have food on the table just as long as she can she her grandchild whenever whe wants. I'm so excited about our first house but then I feel sad at the same time. How can move away without feeling so bad?
2007-01-08 05:22:24 · 6 answers · asked by lad06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother is thinking only about her own seperation anxiety, and is giving you a guilt trip. Very unfair, but common, and with time, she'll be forced to accept your relocation. You did the right thing- putting your husband and child and yourself first- and your mom (deep in her heart, even if she won't admit it) knows this to be true. Keep in touch, and your guilt and sadness will pass- so will hers, and maybe in the future, you can live nearby each other again. Good luck.
2007-01-08 05:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep remembering that you're doing this for you and your family. Your mother has lived her life and doesn't need to take care of you and your brother financially anymore so she can fly/drive out to visit once in a while. Also, you can both get one of those computer cameras to keep in touch online all the time. It'll be a sad time for a while, homesickness and such but once you settle in you'll be fine. Good luck!
2007-01-08 07:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty - remember your mom moved away from you to be with your brother and his family and also to enjoy their early retirement. was she worrying about you when she made this decision? just because you moved down there to be closer to her, doesn't mean you are stuck there - the move there was your choice and it's your choice if you decide to leave. seems very selfish of her to want you to stay because she gets to see her grandchild whenever she wants. she had that opportunity when you lived in Mass. and she choose to move away. it didn't seem to matter then and, so, it shouldn't matter now. that's what life is all about - change. do what makes you happy, follow your heart and be happy with YOUR family. this is your future not hers. good luck.
2007-01-08 05:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what....as long as you are doing what is best for your family, that is all that matters. have a heart to heart with her and let her know she is making it so hard, and she doesn't need to make it that way. be excited, michigan is a beautiful state, and much more cost effective than NC.....i'm excited for you! and now you have your own home and she can come visit! you'll do great. it isn't the first time you've lived away from her. don't worry.
2007-01-08 05:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being selfish.
2007-01-08 05:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staye in touch
2007-01-08 05:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Umm Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋