assuming that she is not interested in his money--but him as a person, is it better for their finances to be about equal?
2007-01-08 05:14:26 · 49 answers · asked by Frank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Beta, I cannot really see why. Yes, I could see some possible class differences...but that can be overcome should the relationship move forward. And that is the key, if the relationship grows then likely its fine...if it falters and ends, it may well be because of the difference. I would say, follow your instincts.
GBY
2007-01-08 05:17:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter either way, as long as one knows where the other stands in terms of financial motives. I do not know of one couple where the man makes the exact same amount of money as the woman. I have seen many relationships where people come from vastly different financial backgrounds and they get along just great. It all depends on the people involved, and how committed they are to making the thing work.
I can, however speak from experience. I was seeing this man who was somewhat successful but I happened to make a considerable amount more. I never had a problem with it or gave it a second thought. He, on the other hand, resented the fact that my bank account was fatter than his. To some, money equals power, and this ultimately became a relationship ender, he just couldn't let it go. It all depends on the personal outlook of those involved. This, of course, is speaking in ways of money. You must also figure into the equation the emotional state of the people involved, as in any relationship. I think money is just that...paper, and should never impact a relationship in a negative way (as far as what you bring to the table) - many have a different view.
Take care! :)
2007-01-08 05:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by polishedamethyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy from an upper-class background who dated and married a girl from a lower-class background, I can say that the most significant problem wasn't the finances!
We both paid the bills working (my parents were well-off, but I didn't see any of the money), but the biggest issue was our views on life in general. My wife was happy in the small apartment we got our start in, but I was uncomfortable. Also, I was always giving her gifts that were too expensive for our budget because I said she "deserved them." It put her in an awkward position sometimes.
The good news is, it gets better with time as the two of you share your lives and have more and more in common.
2007-01-08 05:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never been wealthy just comfortable. Even my family is fighting for jobs and a steady income. But the love of my life has a rich family, and will soon be making almost 200,000 a year b4 the age of 30. Money has nothing to do with love. So long as you arent a golddigger, or selfish. And no that you can suceed in your work, but if you cant suceed in love its meaningless.
2007-01-08 05:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating should never be about the money...otherwise you may miss out on the person your dating. Let the finances fall where they may...and just focus on the personality and they way you feel around eachother.
2007-01-08 05:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, assuming she is in to him and not his money. Relationships are about two individuals and there love for one another, not to say finances are not important, but money does not buy love, or happiness for that matter.
2007-01-08 05:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Diego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just dating is not bad but money wise I would be more intelligent to data somebody with the same economical status to maintain this above or to have some one with potential to increase this, if she is poor is for a reason.
2007-01-08 05:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that they both love each other, there's nothing wrong with it all. But typically, the poor girl is a gold digger and the rich guy is nothing more than a playboy.
If it's not the "typical" case, then, I say, YES!
Remember the movie "Love Story"?
2007-01-08 05:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with a wealthy man dating a "poor" girl. Opposites attract and its not what you have in materials but you what you have with in. The poorest girl might turn out to be the most beautiful person insid and out for that particular man. Plus they always appreciate what that man might do for them because they're not used to that.
2007-01-08 05:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Hunny Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're reading too many sociology books. Define "lots of money" and "poor". When we start to try and put monetary value on anything, it's doomed. If you have to ask that question, then its the wrong guy.
2007-01-08 05:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋