hi this is lizz again things are so bad for me this year and i dont kno what i did to deserve the things thats happening to me. but i need help my guy friend asked me out today and its only been about 3 days since my big split with the guy that i was in love with! do you think i sould give it time? or just go with my guy friend? i dont kno what to do!!!!! most of my friends are telling me to just heal first the maby you should and some are telling me that i should i dont kno so help pleaz!!! thanx for the help!!!
2007-01-08 05:04:15 · 18 answers · asked by lizz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, if you value your love, give yourself sometime to recover. concentrate on yourself first, before you can love again. right now, you still have feelings for you ex, and it's not fair for a new guy that will come along. give youself time to heal, until you can date someone without thinking about your ex. in the meantime, just go and have fun, do things that you like to do for now.
2007-01-08 05:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lizz was in your boat not long ago at all and i probably speak for alot of people when i suggest waiting i know you want to distract your self from the pain and move on but really you need time to heal and what i found out from people through experience is a good person will not ask you out in this situation they will wait for you to heal you may really know this person already but can be easy to take advantage of a woman OK any one when they are vulnerable . this is what i did as well as jumping the gun and dated right away which i wish i hadn't but the rest was positive and i hope it helps you. movies movies movies comedies
writing it helps . i cleaned my house threw all the stuff from the relationship away and really scrubbed the place. i went out to coffee with all my friends took a lot of naps cryed it out and spent alot of time on this site answering peoples questions it made me feel better to comfort other people in pain like my self .. reading and meditation helped too . three months later i am a new person . it will take time dear but you wil make it
2007-01-08 13:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by dancfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just broke up with a person you really cared about then give yourself time...let your friend know that you would be happy to go out with him as a friend for now and maybe work into something more. when it comes to love, we can't (unfortunately) control who we love, how we love or for how long the love is going to last. if its good, naturally we would like it to last forever, but the fact is, people grow and change. so whether we are the ones getting dumped or the person doing the dumping we will need time to let our hearts and minds clear of all the old baggage.
good luck to you.
2007-01-08 13:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it some time. Spend time with your girlfriends. If you really like this new guy you won't want him to be your rebound. If you were in love you need time to get over it. Sure have some fun, don't stay home sad but let your friends help you get over it. Just let this guy know you need some time and he should understand.
2007-01-08 13:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Rebound relationships are really a bad situation, especially if the other person falls for you. You don't want to hurt him, and he probably doesn't want to be hurt.
Take your time, and heal a little first.
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 13:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel and do it when you are ready, dont let anyone pressure you into anything that you arent ready to do.....in my opinion i think you should wait and give it time because you just got out a relationship...you need time to heal because now you are vulnarable and the guy knows it.....He is trying to get you on the rebound, which is no good
2007-01-08 13:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out but make sure you tell your friend you are still healing and can not commit to any thing more than a nice night out.
2007-01-08 13:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems that if your were in love with the other guy you would need more time, if you were in puppy love that can also hurt badly, you want to wait also you dont want to end up using your friend as a rebound, and lose the friendship
2007-01-08 13:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take good time.... let the feeling go then think of going for a date. well you can find many guys ... as eveyone need someone some time .. right now you need to take a break ... discard allthing that make you remember of him ... ok and i wish you heel up soon ... soon as you think and may find one right person the very nxt time. take care ...... don;t forget your one and special in each and eveyway
2007-01-08 13:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to let yourself heal, but another relationship always helps get over that other guy. although your not really in love with him and you'll prbably hurt him even more.
2007-01-08 13:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋