Whenever my spouse gets his other son, which is rare, I just can't stand to look at him (the son) and he gets on my last nerve so quickly (he does misbehave, probably for attention since my spouse and I have a son) is this a phsycological problem on my part? Can you help me understand all these mixed emotions and is it normal?
2007-01-08 04:58:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
MY husband has another son from another marriage. For awhile I had a hard time dealing with it. My issue wasn't with the other child is was the fact he had been married before. So maybe it's the fact that you weren't first. Unfotunately, it is a problem on your part that you need to figure out how to deal with. The other son isn't at fault for the situation. Try spending time with him and get to know him better. Most children misbehave for attention, and if your son isn't, he will eventually. But, your issues with your stepson could cause problems in your marriage. I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but you are being jealous and selfish of the attention your husband gives his son. If you can't deal with the fact that you have TWO sons, then you shouldn't have gotten involved with your husband.
2007-01-08 05:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Although the conflict is very normal, for an adult to get 'attitude' with a child is totally wrong.
They are forced to live with choices made by adults,
Choices they had NO say in.
All kids must be given love and kindness, & the ones having hostile attitudes need loving discipline. Check out Dr. Phil, he has lots of info on dealing with kids.
2007-01-08 05:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by kate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋