My bf of 3 months is 23 and i'm 22- He recently met up with his ex last wed and never told me (we had issues with her throughout our relationship) they met up for drinks (he told me he was w his friends), he told her hes not with me anymore, that he still loves her, misses her and he held her for like 5 mins and kissed her on the cheek when she was leaving. Then the entire next day that she was driving to her new state (she was moving).. he was texting her cutesy messages saying Thanks for all your love and calling her the nickname he used to call her, saying :YOUR THE BEST: and I'm going to miss you. I found all this out because SHE messaged me on myspace to confirm if him and i were broken up! I then called her and found all this out apparently hes been texting her throughout our relationship and I just feel DEVASTATED because we were planning a trip to vegas in 2 weeks and he told me that he wanted to marry me..Hes away now for 15 days (hes in the army) i changed my # but what else?
2007-01-08 04:54:06 · 32 answers · asked by BLoNdE22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, that is cheating. Get rid of him.
2007-01-08 04:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you mean but whatelse should i do besides change my number...move if you can! what kind of guy is this who wants to marry you and hook up with his ex? not cool. Sorry for the pain you must be in don't let him sour you on relationships.. there are some good guys out there. Let him know that you found out about his little game and that you dont want him to ever try to contact you again. No matter how much you love him or loved him.. its over, obviously he isn't the man you thought he was.. go find the guy he should have been. ( i.e someone else)
2007-01-08 04:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by bickeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about it, but it would be best if you would go ahead and break it off with him. If he's screwing around this early in a relationship, then it's a very good possibility that he's going to continue to screw around. Maybe he should go back to his ex if he's happy with her and has already told her that you two are no longer together. Did both of you pay for the trip to Vegas? If I were you I would try to go on the trip to Vegas with a friend and not with him if you decide that you don't want to be with him, but no matter what it's your decision to stay with him or not. Just follow your heart and it will tell you what to do. Hope that this helps.
2007-01-08 04:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh, that's horrible! I hate to see relationship problems, but God knows, all of us have them at one time or another. Obviously you need to find a man who will realize your self worth and not take you for granted. I say you ditch that guy (even though it may be hard!) for the better. Then, when you finally think you're over him, take a night on the town with some of your girl friends, wear your sexiest outfit, and make him wish he never would've done that to you. But, if you still want to be with this guy, talk it out. Ask him if he still has feelings for his ex, because if he does, that's not fair to you. You deserve all the respect in the world, and flirting with other girls (and especially lying about it!) is just wrong.
2007-01-08 05:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by 0akland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm Baby Girl I Been Through this...Hmmm, The Best advice for you is DUMP HIM and Move on, He did you Bogus as Hell, God knows What else he Could have been doing With her behind your Back, Or What he Could have been telling her, Talking about you like a Dog, What an ***....He's 2-faced! What a Bastard
2007-01-08 04:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by kittysweetie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say your goodbyes to him. Get rid of him.
He's obviously still hung up on his ex. Even if she is moving away, you're just replacing her because she's not there.
He's lied, emotionally cheated, and made you look like a fool. You can't still stay with him.
You don't need that drama in your life. There are so many cooler guys out there that are NOT hung up on their ex.
2007-01-08 04:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a thought for you... something you seem not to have thought of...
Could she be lying? Is it possible that the issues you had "with her throughout our relationship" are continueing? Might she be jealous and trying to find a way to get you to break up with him? Maybe? Is it even possible? Have you run what she said by your boyfriend and the friends he said he was with when he went out?
2007-01-08 05:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it's cheating. He's either still in love with her or in love with neither of you. A man who is in love with a woman may make a mistake, but what you've described is an entire pattern of behavior. It will be hard, but you need to get him out of your life completely and find a man who will actually mean what he says.
2007-01-08 04:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by jchaddavis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is obviously still in love with his ex. he's not ready to be dating you or anyone else.. he needs to either reconcile and get back with his ex, or he needs 4-6 months of down time to get over his feelings and rejuvinate himself..
you obviously deserve better. you need a guy that has no emotional baggage. you need a guy that is totally ready and willing to give you his full and undivided love and attention..
and gee, slow things down. there is no way you should ever consider marrying anyone that you have only dated for 3 months..you hardly knew this guy, as it turns out..
2007-01-08 05:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - he's lying to you and to her, probably trying to have his cake and eat it too. What a terrible scumbag. If he's still hung up on her, anyway, you don't need that headache. Good luck finding a man that loves and respects you next time around, girl - you deserve better than this!
2007-01-08 04:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by skatoolaki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you defentely shoudnt marry him,or atleast not untill you know him better. I think what he didnt excatly cheating but in someway he did because he was metting up with her behind your back.If he loves you why is he talking to his ex and why did he tell her that he missed her. I dont think he really love you. Dont forgive him
2007-01-08 04:58:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋