Is this a good tactic for getting a girl?

Question

I fancy this girl, she has a bebo/myspace. I think she USED to fancy me, but I am shy! If I post a message on her bebo saying "Hey, want to go out somtime", then maybe 5minutes later post one saying "Hey sorry my friend was up and posted this why I was getting a drink LOL", will I be able to judge by her reaction if she likes me. EG. If she says Ohh, ok, nvm : she isent interested?

Answer 1

I think she'll see right through that plan of yours. Better to just post the, "Want to go out message?" or ask her out in person.

Don't start all that 'pretending it was somebody else' behaviour.

Answer 2

You got the first part right by asking her out.

It is not appropriate to post the 2nd message saying a friend posted the 1st message while you were getting a drink.

You will be giving her mixed messages and she will think that there is no offer to go out with you, she may even think your friend wants to take her out.

Quick answer to your question is NO I do not think this a good tactic.

Just ask her out, don't be afraid of rejection, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all as the saying goes.

You may get a pleasant surprise.

You won't know if she is interested unless you ask her - don't play games just be straight, that way it is likely she will be straight with you too.

Think of a mutual interest - re bebo/my space.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Speaking personnally, I hate it when guys do that, it comes accross as immature and you feel like the guy and his 'friend' is making fun of you. You probably wont get a sincere reaction from her anyway so please don't do it. Asking her out publicly over bebo etc will only embarass her as most girls dont want their private lives declared to the world.

Try to find the confidence to ask her out face to face. Girls love it when guys are open and honest about how they feel, it may seem like the scariest thing in the world but sending notes and cryptic messages normally makes you seem immature. If you take the upper hand and just go for she'll love you for it. Even if she says no she'll appreciate your courage and honesty.

Good Luck & God Bless xx

Answer 4

I dont believe this is a good tactic. If she sees through it and thinks that you posted both of those comments she will think you are lame and definitely not go out with you.
If she gets your message saying you like her and she gets her hopes up then you say no while i was getting drunk, that doesn't make you look good either.

You should just be honest with her and she will respect you much more than if you use tricks. If she says no, then you dont have to be embarassed. And even if you do, you'll get over it quickly and find another person who works better for you.

Answer 5

No just have the courage and ask her out. Dont be an idiot she will know you are lieing by using your friend ok, that is so unoriginal dude come on. Just ask her what is the worse that could happen and guess what you one get one life and we are all going to die anyway. But you will regret it if you never ask her. Part of being free is knowing you did everything you could possibly do so then its not your own fault. If she denies you at least you tried and there are other girls you know. You cant control everything but you can control what you do to help a situation.

Answer 6

Well, honestly, she'll probably have to be rather weird and/or very very interested to say "yeah let's date sometime".

That's because your approach, though not at all untypical, is a BAD way to do it don't tease her and then say, in any form "oh, I'm sorry, that was just a mistake, my friend did it". That just shows lack of confidence and adventuruousness. A statement more like "Hey you're a bit short for a cute girl nice pimple on your pic what's up?" and then NOT saying "that was just a joke"

This lets her know straight off you are a strong person and you are not afraid to speak to a girl like a person, not be predictable and play suck up to her like a goddess (as the average guy would). Don't treat her like crap but don't play suck up or "ask her out either"...after a few flirts (like the one above) just tell her something like "Well I've got to go I'm going to the Starbucks by my house to grab a drink and a need to study/work". If this works she'll say something like "Hey, can I come?" and you can say "if you wish hard enough, sure"...if not keep flirting the point is to get her to invite herself and/or ask you out.... Eventually when you guys are both going out someone invite her on a daring date (such as skinny dipping or driving out to an empty area of beach at midnight) to send her a clear message "I'm not the boring loser who sits around and does your homework for you and begs you for dates I'm your man and I'm more exciting than any guy you'll ever meet, no matter how handsome."

Never ask out a girl directly (especially to places where the attraction is the place not you IE an amusement park) it makes you look like the kind of guy who is not skilled and exciting enough to get asked out.

I'm shy as anything as well and I know this kind of thing seems unnatural at first but, trust me, I've dated girls (who were at first convinced they were way way out of my league) by doing this well.

Best luck man!

Answer 7

Just ask, post 1st part on bebo and then just wait for her to reply. Ask her directly and get some brownie points

Girs love confident guys.

: )

Answer 8

i don't really think that's a good idea, firstly because if she does like u it might get her hopes up, and then if u say it was ur friend it might knock her confidence about saying what she really feels, and secondly its too public. i think if u have her number u should text her and get a convo going, then ask her out, nothing serious but it gets things started. if u dont have her number, u should comment on her page but nothing too out there, just something like ' hi how r u, not spoke to u in a while' and just have a wee comment convo with her.
if someone did your idea to me, i wud feel like u and ur friend were making fun of me by doing that.
hope this helps

Answer 9

No if you really like this girl then you should really just ask her out because If you play with her like that then she will think that you didn't mean it, and here's a little word of advice, If she says "okay, nvm" then watever it's over so later on if you really ask her out she won't believe you, she will think it is your friend again.♥ BerrY_BRuW♥

Answer 10

no don't do that - it's way too obvious that you're making it up

seriously just ask her if she wants to go out sometime

if she doesn't then hey, at least you've tried and it wouldn't be the end of the world if she said no - there are plenty of other girls in the world.