Me and my bf were having a long distance relationship for the past year and a half. It was getting difficult because we really missed being around eachother so he moved to my state and we got our own apartment.This is a first for both of us. We are both 22 and its our first time away from home. Weve always had to go to hotels and pay crazy amounts of money just to be alone and make love. We moved in on the 29th of december and i swear we've only had sex about 4 times.Trust me thats a very low number for us. Thing is its not me its him. He doesnt really seem interested in sex to much. He goes straight to sleep at night. Its starting to piss me off. I feel that maybe the fact that he knows he has full access to me now is making him not really interested. Maybe before when it was harder to get to me it was more exciting and more of a turn on? What could it be? Yester day i asked him if he wasnt attracted to me anymore..but i asked in a joking way. He got mad that i asked that. What now?
2007-01-08 04:47:43 · 12 answers · asked by yesindeed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is still attracted to you. even more so now, i'd bet. but here is the problem.... he just changed his whole life. he moved away, and got his first apartment with a woman. he is messed up in the head right now. he is scared. he put himself in a situation where you could leave him, kick him out, etc... and he's far from what he knows. and he doesn't want to fail you, and he is afraid of that, too. probably more than anything else. this fear and stress very easily ruins his libido without even realizing it. hell, he probably doesn't even realize his fear and stess! its like taking a dog from the pound and bringing him home. he needs time to adjust and get over his fear. and thats where you come in. back off. be easy on him. don't pressure him. just understand whats going on in head. make him feel proud, and comfortable. when he finally adjusts, you will see his diminished libido rise to new heights! try giving him a massage at bedtime, wearing something sexy. but don't get mad if he does not react. just be happy you are sleeping next to him. just give him time. even try talking to him about his fears, but don't push him. good luck.
2007-01-08 05:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by beechjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started to feel the same way about my bf.. and i asked the same thing. Unfortunate that your guy got mad..he should understand that it was a very obvious question and you even said it jokingly sheesh! anyway... maybe something is going on in his life that has got him really tired or troubled, if thats the case give him some space and time. Give him massages.. with no sexual intent... Dont be aggressive in or out of bed... just back off.. if he doesnt come around in another month or so. something is wrong. But don't worry it may be just a phase or even home sickness!
2007-01-08 04:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by bickeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're right bout the "he knows he has full access to me now is making him not really interested. Maybe before when it was harder to get to me it was more exciting" thing.Or maybe he just feels so comfortable n secure with you that he doesnt feel it necessary to make love every day to show u how much he cares bout u.I think the best way will be to have a heart to heart talk to him bout the issue. Thats the key to any successful relationship.Good luck girl!
2007-01-08 05:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 09:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by dietlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very stressful moving in together.. probably just needs time to get adjusted... he may be feeling a bit of shock over the whole idea... I think he'll come around. He's been with you for a year & a half! I don't think he'll lose interset overnight... good luck!
2007-01-08 04:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by chocmartinigrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's exactly it, he knows he can have you whenever so it's not the biggest deal in the world to him... why don't you get things going by taking him somewhere in public where yous can be naughty about it, like the beach late at night or the movie theater.. I'm sure if you do that it will jump start his hormones again and get him going, he needs some form of naughtiness :) :) :)
2007-01-08 04:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it, "FULL ACCESS", before it was fun and exciting. Now, he feels trapped. Work it out or move on and find a guy who wants sex alot.
2007-01-08 05:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back out. Tell him it wasnt a good idea, and go back home!
2007-01-08 04:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's got problems i wouldnt even let you out of the bed
2007-01-08 04:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he sounds totally gay
2007-01-08 04:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋