My 15-year-old is in a funk...?

Question

Are all fifteen-year-olds always in a funk?

He is always in a strange mood. He's never really happy nor is he ever really sad. He fusses at his little sister. His step-dad (my husband) gets on his nervers. He rarely vists with his dad. He dislikes his step-mom. We used to be close (the ex-husband, new wife and my husband and me) so I have difficulty understanding this feeling toward her.

He doesn't like to be seen with any of us, but won't drive himself anywhere (in SC can drive at 15 1/2).

I thought he was doing drugs--had him drug tested. The test was negative.

I've taken him to a therapist, a psychologist and a psychiatrist to find out what his mood swings are all about. He likes talking to the Dr's, but he's never said anything to help them understand what is going on.

I have given up on the professional help and am going it alone. I'm beginning to think that he's fifteen and simply in a 15-year-old funk. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Help?

****Blondie- I don't think you read the question. I didn't write that he didn't get along with his step-dad. What I wrote was that his step-dad gets on his nerves. His step-mom is a new addition to the family, but has been a friend to our family for years. Ours has not been the typical divorced family as his father and I have worked to keep a friendship between us and to put our child first. The step parents have been supportive and caring AND he has not had a problem with them in the past. He is only just now starting to act differently toward ALL OF US. So, before answering questions READ THEM. Don't impute your own meaning into the question, just answer what is asked.

Answer 1

Very natural for a 15 year old to behave like this. They are at the stage in life where they are trying to act more adult like and yet still want to hang onto the apron string a bit. There are hormones coming into play also and changes occurring within them physically. A lot of kids this age question their looks, the reason they are here, their friends and or lack of, their love life, etc. Good news is that this will pass and he will become more comfortable inside his skin. Remember being that age and the feelings that you found confusing and it will help understand what he is going though better also. Good luck and best of luck to your son also in getting over this funk he is currently in.

Answer 2

It always amazes me that people get married, have children and then ruin the home with divorce and then go on and have a life with someone else and the children are supposed to what? just be happy? Your son doesn't get along with his step-dad, nor his step-mom and is in a funk........ Why don't you people wake up, his world sucks, it has been blown to h*ll. Wouldn't you be in a funk, or would you just go along and be normal loving all the ruin that the parents caused. I'm just shaking my head!

Answer 3

Get him to find a job. Something to build up his confidence while he is going through his hormonal changes.

It doesn't have to be a difficult job, just something to give him a different outlook on life, some independence and hopefully something that will give him an outside male influence.

My nephew started mowing lawns on a tractor at age 12 and he LOVES IT.

Answer 4

pshh thats just how most of us are. hes probably just at a point where hes just saying whatever to whats going around him and thinking that everyones annoying unless there his gooooood friends. Hes probably just starting a rebelling phase. it happens all the time and yea it usually does get worse. he could start turning his music up EXTREMELY loud, leaving without permission. just think about the punks that used to go to your high school when you were his age, always angry with people they used to be close to arent really happy but arent sad more mad at everything.

Answer 5

He is a teenager!! This is normal, don't worry!