Me and my gf have been together for about 5 months now. It was love at first sight. The problem is, all was fine until about month ago when she met this guy at a party. Now she talks to him A LOT, he's ALWAYS calling her and telling her how much he loves her and always trying to break us apart. She swears he's just a friend and I believed her for a while, but now things took a pretty bad turn. Yesterday they went to the movies and afterwards he went back to her place. She says that he tried to do a lot of things (fool around with her) but she stopped him. She also says that she did kiss him once and was kind of "teasing" him and cuddling with him and stuff.
She swears that's all that happened and that she did stop him but I don't know what to believe. She tells me he's just a friend and doesn't want anything with him but acts the opposite. I have talked to her about this but that's no help. Any suggestions on how to approach this better and maybe sort it out?
Thanks in advance!
2007-01-08 04:28:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I let her go to the movies with him because it's not my place to tell people what they can and can't do. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt that they are just friends. I do have friends that cuddle with me, and they are truly just friends so I wanted to believe that they are just friends. Granted I don't let them do it now that I'm with her but they still cuddle with everyone.
I also believe in second chances. Everyone gets one mistake. My problem is I don't think she's telling me the full extent of everything. I've asked numerous times and she keeps saying that's it. I'm afraid she's just trying to protect my feelings and our relationship but, in reality, lying is only going to make it worse. As I said, I give second chances to those who can own up to their mistakes and admit that they made a mistake and that it won't happen again.
2007-01-08 05:04:17 · update #1
She can not have him as a friend if he is wanting more it will not work. She is enjoying the attention of another man. who can blame her for that, but it has now come to a point where she is crossing the line of what is appropriate behavior for a girl who is suppose to be in a real relationship with someone else. Tell her to break it off with him before she crosses the line and can not get back. I would believe her when she said she teased but no sex, cause if she had she would not have told you.
2007-01-08 04:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it Sounds like your GF is Now your Ex GF....it appears she's Moved on and What kind of Man are you to Let your Girl go out to the Movies of all places with this guy?? You should have told her NO and Put your Foot down, I Don't care if he's Just a friend Or not, Obviously he's Not because he made a Pass at her and she's The Cheater because she allowed him Back to her place Because when a Man and a Woman are alone together, Something is Bound to Happen!!! Dump her and Move on!!
2007-01-08 04:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by kittysweetie19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is playing both sides against the middle... an old saying. :) Generally she's keeping both options open and it is simply not fair to you. "Just a friend" doesn't cuddle and kiss with you. What it feels like to me, is that she's keeping you on the line until she decides whether she likes the other guy better. Then she'll likely dump one of you. In your place, I'd not be giving her the option to dump me. You need to recognize that even if she picks you, it'll probably happen again the next time someone looks like a good replacement. Do yourself a favour and leave her behind.
2007-01-08 04:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am sorry for the pain you must be going through. Í think that it would appear that your gf seems to need a little more time before making a committment to you or to anyone else. The fact that she is exploring the relationship with this guy is that she is obviously interested, otherwise she wouldnt bother with him. As painful as this is for you, please take this advice: tell her that it is obfious that she needs space and time to make up her mind. Then leave her alone for awhile. If it is true love between you and this girl, I would guarantee that she will return to you. If she doesnt, then you found out in good time that in the long run, her relationship with you wasnt as serious as you initially believed it to be. Whatever happens, you will be fine in the long haul. Good luck to you.
2007-01-08 04:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 09:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pretty much consider that cheating. It's not really right for you to ask her to stop hanging out with him, but you should definitely ask her to stop acting like that. It's beyond a little bit of flirting, it's seems like they are dating. Sorry honey, but I think you should maybe move on. You don't want to date someone who would rather cuddle with someone else!
2007-01-08 04:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously been flirting with him, which is a sign that she likes him as more than just a friend. I think more will happen, and you should probably tell her now that you won't tolerate that kind of behaviour as long as you two are in a committed relationship.
2007-01-08 04:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't love at first sight: it was lust that has proven to lack any real depth or meaning - she's dating another guy and is lying to you about it. She's dating, kissing and getting physically intimate with another guy and lying to you by calling it "friends". Break up. Move on. And remember there's no such thing as "love at first sight".
2007-01-08 04:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude stop being a door mat for her and man up and take control of the situation Who has the balls in this relationship ???Doesn't sound like you do .
2007-01-08 07:17:18 · answer #9 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe talk to her bestfriend you should know that if she likes you and him both she is gonnna go to her friend for advice. so maybe you should try that. or you can still try to talk to her about it but if she keeps acting like that then maybe something is really going on and she ain't nothing but a flirt sorry bud. good luck
2007-01-08 04:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋