Is it possible to have a career in Performing Arts and still have a stable relationship and later on marriage?

Question

Just went back to uni as a mature student to persue my lifelong dream in Performing arts and have met the man of my dreams I want to have both!

Answer 1

I think it is possible! But only if the man is compromising and can handle your field of work. Some men get jealous or may not be able to handle the lack of attention that comes with performing or being on the road if neccassary. If he genuinely loves you and respects your gift, it can work. Just got to know your boundaries in balancing both. :)

Answer 2

That is a hard question. - If your a female and your husband is the only one working, you seem to look down on yourself for not contributing to the bills or whatever. But at the same time..... Wow - i really can't answer this question. The only way i could answer this question is if i was a single parent.... but thats not what you are asking----- I guess it all depends on your upbringing when you were a child, if a girls mother told her to marry a successful man so she didn't have to work... then i guess she would worry more about her marriage. But being a guy...... I'm not sure - If i had a job that was very good paying and a wife that tried everything to help out with financial situations, i guess i would appreciate her more for trying to act like she needed to help out. If i was a woman i would try to make it on my own - Just simply because i think it's a beautiful thing ( an independent woman ).. she knows what she wants/needs out of life... she has her thoughts/goals and dosen't depend on anybody for anything, therefore making her a stronger person. I don't even think i even answered your question... I know how I'm feeling i just can't write it down - Sorry Bye the way - Love your avatar picture...... Just the eyes can say so much about a person.

Answer 3

It's not like you're going to become the next Brad Pitt/Angelea Jolie couple. There are tons of alternitive relationships- people in the army, out to sea, traveling sales men, performing artists are just the same. And there is, after a while, a certian stability with performing arts- don't destroy a relationship because you think you'll have the next job relocating to New Zealand for 5 years- a lot of people work professonally in the arts in their own city most their lives... there are a lot of jobs and actually few that require you to be simi-homeless. Don't worry about it yet.

Answer 4

Very much so. You must however make up your mind to live a sober life within a stable family system and that you will not be distracted or carried away by the glitter of the performing arts. You have a role model in Dolly Patton. Go for it and it will work out fine. All the best

Answer 5

Absolutely - just as it is possible to have a career in any field with unusual time demands and still have a stable relationship. Primarily, the two of you need to share an understanding of the amount of time you both need for your careers. All other relationship issues being ignored, with shared understanding and shared expectations of work commitments, you should both be able to have a long and healthy relationship.

Now, if you bring children into the picture, you're both going to have to work a bit harder to balance your time commitments, but I reiterate that this would be the case in any time intensive job.

Answer 6

My friend, George, is a world renowned opera tenor who has been married to his wife for 18 years. They have 4 children (or is it 5?) and are very happy. They do have to juggle things sometimes though, as he does travel the world. Marriage, no matter how good it is, is a world of give and take. If you want a career in perfoming arts and the man of your dreams, you have to work at both.

Answer 7

yes it is completely possible in my opinion. I am the child of two people who are performers and I am headed into the industry myself. My parents have been married for 26 years and I am about to get married myself to a wonderful guy. My parents are still on their first marriage. I think it has nothing to do with being in the arts but having a good relationship and a healthy one. For me and my parents it has been our relationship with God that has made our relationships last. I just graduated from college and am now auditioning for orchestras and other performing groups to be in. I teach on the side as well and it has worked for both my parents and my fiance and I. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

You can have both. The most important thing is that you hold on to each other and that you keep your feet on the ground. It is important that you dedicated the same amount of time to your man and your dream. Never give up or waste time. They are the two most things you love the most so take care of them.

Answer 9

I think there are lots of actors and actresses that have long stable relationships. Long stable relationships are boring to on lookers. Falling in love and divorce is exciting and interesting. That's why we don't hear about the sable relationships but the divorces are plastered all over the media.

Answer 10

I don't think maintaining the relationship is the problem. The problem comes when you graduate and need to move in order to get a job. Is this person willing to follow you?