My boyfriend and me have been together for about 3years and recently he had to moved about 3hours away from me to be with his mum, we split up for a short time, but now we are back together and are feelings are much stronger then befor, we started plaining him moving back in to my house. But then last week he applied for a plumbing corse which means hehas to stay where he is now. And now he cant moved down here for another year. Im so upset, he tells me he wants me so much but he has to do this forst. please help
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2007-01-08 04:24:13 · 28 answers · asked by xxpeachsoftxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend needs to get his career and job settled before worrying about getting with you. Be supportive and wish him well, because he knows he has to step up to the plate and be a man first. I wish more guys would actually get a stable career and education under their belt before pursuing their love lives! He sounds like he might actually grow up to be an adult. You should stop being upset (all about your feelings) and start being proud!!
2007-01-08 04:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just trying to get a job. If he's putting work first that means he wants to be able to provide, not that he's ignoring you. There's always a chance that he might want to live away from you, but if your feelings are stronger than before then that shouldn't be the case. If it's bothering you so much then you should ask him why he chose to stay for another year. But don't make it sound accusing or negative, just bring it up in regular conversation. If he knows it's bothering you then he should be able to provide a good answer as to why.
2007-01-08 12:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Diagonal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is to get serious with you, he needs to have a job. Also remember with his parents he probably lives for free and would have to pay rent with you!!!
Are there no plumbing courses around your area?
I understand where he is coming from, I would put my career before love at this point in my life... I think you should give him the time and space, after all its only 3h and if you love each other all will be well.
2007-01-08 12:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you will give him time to work his stuff out and he will love you all the more for it. As long as you have regular contact it can work. don't stress yourself about it or it will put pressure on him and he'll feel boxed in and flee. Just let it flow and se what happens I'm sure he misses you as much as you miss him and I'm sure its just the job thing and nothing to do with your relationship. Good Luck
2007-01-08 12:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's working on his career, and that's a good thing. Also, maybe his mother needed him. Give him the time and space he needs for a while he isn't so far away that he can't come and visit and you can go there as well.
2007-01-08 12:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's chosen to learn a trade; he's preparing for the future & if your love is as strong as you write, he’s doing it for both of you. Show him your love by supporting him in this. See him on the weekends & holidays. Why not go to school yourself during this time? Hang in there, kid, this too shall pass.
2007-01-08 12:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wants to find his feet before he settles down with you it really is a big step to take a blokes are not really into the whole sharing there feelings as you may know give him time to discover what he wants to do with de rest of his life then he'll come running back to you
2007-01-08 12:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by flojo06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel at least is only 3hrs away. i just break oss a yr and half relationship b/c of the distance. i'm in ny and he's in new orleans. it would work for me b/c he cheated before and he was right here. if your b/f is good to u keep him travel every other week if its worth it
2007-01-08 12:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didnt he get on a plumbing course where you are, sounds to me that he would rather stay near his mum. Why dont you move to him?
2007-01-08 12:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that your bf is trying to better himself and support him and his decision. In meantime you can plan visits over the course of the year while he is in school, keep communication open at all times with him.
2007-01-08 12:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋