I met my best friend 5yrs ago. I had a long term bf & he’d never had a proper girlfriend. Everyone thought my friend was secretly in love with me but when I split up with my bf 2yrs ago,I told my friend I thought I might be attracted to him & he said he’d only ever thought of me as a friend.We never mentioned it again & have been fine since.We love all the same things,make eachother laugh,can tell eachother anything&want all the same things out of life in the future.He finally got a gf& seems2b fairly serious about her.But he draws comparisons between me&her&how she’s not interested in the things he&I are interested in.One drunk night he said that we should get married,that ours was the love people dream about&that its as if we were made for eachother.but he's still with his gf.is it normal4people2say things like that so seriously?what shall i do?time is running out as we leave university in juneim not sure if im barking up the wrong tree.if he says he feels that about me,why the gf?!
2007-01-08 04:13:06 · 9 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you two would be a great match, but there is one thing that might be holding him back. I think the reason that it is difficult for friends to develop into something more is because when you are looking for a relationship, you are ideally looking for that one instance where you have this sudden deep attraction for someone new and exciting and you then proceed to "fall" in love with that person. With a friend, you have already spent a number of days together talking, doing things, and learning about each other without any attraction, so there is no attractive mystery to the person, and forcing that "falling" in love seems awkward, because after knowing someone for so long, falling for that person loses some luster. He probably had most of his feelings for you when he first got to know you initially, when you had your boyfriend. After knowing a person for that long without a chance to show attraction (because of your bf), then that attraction can significantly fade with time. He likes you, but is completely unsure how or where to start developing anything for you. I would say if you are very interested in this guy who has a gf and don't have a lot of time left, the only way you can try to make anything happen is have a discussion with him. Tell him something like You know (name), if sometime you decide to call it quits with your current gf, I would really like to ask you on a date. Can we make an effort to keep in touch after school is over? If he acts awkward after that, he isn't too interested in you in that way at this point.
2007-01-08 04:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y!A friends I easily haven't any own friends at abode considering I were given married. I really have 2 or 3 friends on right here yet i have self assurance actual on the point of them because I realized a lot from them from their profile and their questions and solutions. i might want to be friends in actual existence with them too if i might want to fulfill them. i'm a strong pal basic to get alongside with.
2016-12-02 00:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If he has a girlfriend, already your chances are slim of being with him. The real question you have to ask is do you love him enough to risk going into a relationship with him, after all going out with him could jepodise that quality friendship you have built up with him.
2007-01-08 04:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by the nose :o) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with him about this...without being drunk. It's always best to be friends first anyway that's how you know it will work out. Tell him honestly how you feel and go from there.
2007-01-08 04:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by all_304 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember now he was drunk and probably doesn't remember even saying those things to you. I would just continue with the friendship and maybe one day when he is sober, he will see you two as more than just friends.
2007-01-08 04:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be frank and clear your doubts once again with him, when he is not drunk this time, as to what he meant about marriage between you two. and also abt gf
2007-01-08 04:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mybee hes tryin to get u jelous to make a strong bond tell him u like him ! he must haeve a thing for u two just tell him ul have to move on somtime in ur life !! :)
2007-01-08 04:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by LeonZe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and talk to him about it. Sounds to me like you have the foundation for a relationship.
2007-01-08 04:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really itis love which developed ultimately. Youhave to decide. He has already decided.
2007-01-08 04:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sabyasachi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋