For a toddler, "sharing" most often means giving the toy up, not sharing. It's actually "taking turns". The "that's mine" phase is SO normal - anything they spy is "theirs" and "sharing" means handing it over.
Try demonstrating "sharing" with something that can actually be shared. Multiple toys (2 cars alike), play-doh, etc., can actually be shared without someone giving it up.
When she snatches your daughter's toys, remind her that her toys are hers for the sharing/taking turns and your daughter's toys are no different. Instead of saying "share with your sister" say "take turns - now it's her turn for awhile."
I think only time can completely cure this problem - all toddlers do this as they learn to control their environments.
2007-01-08 04:56:56
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answered by eli_star 5
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When the 10-month old takes one of the 2 year old's toys and gets upset tell the 2 year old that this is sharing and let the 10 month old play with the toy. If the 10 month old is knawing and destroying the toy take the toy away from the 10 month old to not make the 2 year old mad about sharing a toy and having it destroyed. If the 2 year old goes balistic for you allowing the sharing then be strong and don't give in. Vice versa with the 10 month old.
2007-01-08 05:25:23
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answered by Hmmpphhhh 2
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What is the childminding center doing when this happens? I'm a bit shocked that they wouldn't be a bit more patient with this as this is very typical 2-3 yr old behavior. If you're unable to have a companion get out with you so you can work on the behavior when it happens, then I would just keep working on it with him at home. Kick it up a notch and make a big deal about sharing all day long. Ask him to share something with you, praise him lots and then offer to share something with him. I'm currently working on helping my 2.5 yr old learn to share. (He snatches toys too!) I've started taking his toys from him and when he gets upset I explain to him that that is how he makes the other children feel when he takes a toy from them. What he has just started doing is taking a toy from a child then giving them something else. That's certainly not what I want to see but I think that's a step in the right direction. My dr. once told me that it takes telling a child something some 2000 times before they get it. Good luck!
2016-05-23 10:38:45
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answered by Susan 3
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The source below is a good article about teaching toddlers how to share. I have to emphasize the part that says
"A final complicating factor is that 18-month-olds don't yet have the impulse control to stop themselves from doing something they want to do, even if they have been corrected countless times. For all of these reasons, most children can't really share until they're 2 1/2 to 3."
You can lay the groundwork for good sharing, but she may not get it right away, don't get discouraged. She will eventually.
2007-01-08 04:13:41
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answered by Anonymous
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I think every parent goes through this at some point of time. My daughter is a only child but she spends a great deal of time with her cousin who is 2 years younger. Start with simple things such as playing with the toys and ask the 2 year okay, you have played with this toy for a few minutes now it is time for your sister to play with it. She may even cry or pout but this is something you have to take the time out to work on each day. Try suggesting it with food as well for example when you give her piece of snack suggest that she break a piece of the snack to her sister since you shared with her.
2007-01-08 04:50:15
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answered by Still_21_nheart 4
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Try to remember that two is still really to young to share well. I am in almost the same situation. My son will be three in march and that is when his sister will be 10 months....Right now I am trying to teach him that when he wants a toy that she has picked up he should first hand her something else. Try to keep learning to share time with you and other adults that way when he shares with you it can be really quick. "can mommy use that toy?" "ok" wait a couple seconds or what he can handle and then "thanks for sharing. Would you like to use something of mommy's?" Anyways, it is working for us although it is a slow process.
2007-01-08 04:14:57
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answered by Tetsi 3
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I am the mother of four children and was a toddler teacher for several years. Children under the age of three don't have the mental capacity to share. It is normal for her to think that everything is hers. Just wait and she will learn.
2007-01-08 04:12:25
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answered by Anonymous
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avoidance...buy two of the favorite things that they both want to play with. The older child will be a great sharer when she is old enough, but now you just need to buy more stuff!
2007-01-08 04:17:34
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answered by Anonymous
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