a guy that made you cry/broke your heart, but still made you laugh when you finally talked again.. or a guy who hasn't or would never make you cry (or hurt you...)but hasnt really make you laugh either...
2007-01-08 04:07:35 · 28 answers · asked by brown_sunglasses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately you already know your answer.why bother asking.
let me explain.
the only reason you'd consider a man who broke your heart is because you're still attracted to him, and usually attraction is enough to make a person have second doubts.
lets make this easier.just for example, to make explanatory purposes easier.
the guy who hurt you is =ian
and the guy who wouldnt ever hurt you, or so you say is= collin.
[yes weird choice of names i know, just tag along]
the fact that you enjoy ian's company more is so obvious that im suprised you havent realized it yourself, he made you laugh after such a long time, despite what he'd done, and now you're still attracted to him.
he's a bad boy, and all women, unfortunately are attracted to these types, they're unpredictable and fun, and sometimes can give you a rush that no "good" shy guy could.
collin on the otherhand, is questionable, you can never say a person cannot hurt you, because theres alwasy a chance they can, and thinking they wont ever is naive, and it's making yourself vunerable to a time when they actually do, whether it be intentional or not. and this guy, cant make you laugh..ouch.
whats a relationship without a few laughs? i think it's important dont you?
so the question drops down to you dear.
do you want the dangerous guy,who can spark up tonnes of fiery fun?[or so i assume!making a person laugh, who you've hurt is usually tough!]
or the one who's sweet hearted and will dwell on your everyword.
[and trusting a person to an extent such as this is definately a powerful element!]
happiness isnt easy to find.and giving people a second chance isnt always a bad idea.though you havent mentioned how mr bad guy hurt you, or if you're sure you're going to date him.because you wouldnt be aasking this question if you werent chosing between the two right?
im not going to tell you who to choose, because you know that already, you KNOW these people, you've met them, it's your game.
but i can help.i need you to think it out a bit.
take a pen and paper..draw a margin down the center of a page and write their names in the two columns.
then write down 15 good qualities about both these guys.
after you're done.look at it a while.
analyze.
and im SURE you'll make a decision and it will be yours,
based on YOUR own opinion of the two guys...
and not the advice of a stranger like me, right?
the more truthful you are to yourself the better.
think smart!and dont dwell on little tragedies, have fun with life, try out everything! dont put limits on urself, and be glad you have a choice..alright? and if neither works out, think of it this way
"there are so many other fish in the sea!"
so good luck little one.
Rave
email me if u wish.
2007-01-08 04:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be kind. If you're walking around grumpy all the time (not saying you do) people will tend not to want to be around you. You have to keep a positive attitude. It's not so much being a person that knows how to be funny or goofy or run around the town and always find something to do, but rather someone that can offer a good time (not in a sexual way) such as a consoling friend, a free spirit, someone who is upbuilding meaning they don't try to pick people apart and find their flaws. (Response to your answer you gave me - I have boobs, good sized ones at that, so I'm pretty sure my top half is not considered small. I know I have a very small frame. I can't wear most of the things made for pear shapes, even though you say I have one. But thanks for answering anyways.)
2016-05-23 10:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guy who won't make me cry or hurt me. If his sense of humor is the only problem, you can get him into seeing funny movies and shows, or comics and keep things light around him. He may also be sad about something in the past too so keep that in mind. A man that will hurt is sure to hurt you again and make you cry more. That's a bad relationship.
2007-01-08 04:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, that's a great question! It all depends on his intensions... For guy #1, the one that made ya cry-think about what he did to make you cry. Would you ever do this to someone you truly loved?
With guy #2, he sounds a bit boring to me. Everyone needs a little excitement, if your w/him because he's safe and won't hurt you-sorry, but that's just a waste of a relationship.
In my opinion, I would try my hardest to take my heart out of this. Really think about the health of your relationships. You must look out for yourself because knowone else will. I wouldn't be with either guy!
2007-01-08 04:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by jenniferstowbridge 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess the answer would be determined by whether you would rather laugh or cry. I am sure you have more feelings for the guy that makes you cry, (we girls always do), but the nice guy would be the best for you.
2007-01-08 04:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the guy who would never hurt me. That shows that he really cares about you and even if he hasn't made you laugh he makes up for it by caring so much.
2007-01-08 04:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by cheerfan333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As sad as this may seem, I'd honestly prefer the guy who hurts me, but also makes me laugh. I can say that because its kind of the situation I'm in now.
2007-01-08 04:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one who makes you cry and laugh. It is love from your side.
2007-01-08 04:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sabyasachi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD PROBABLY BE SO CONFUSED THAT I WOULD LEAVE THEM BOTH. IF IT'S NOT A CHEAT(THE GUY THAT HURT ME)I WOULD FORGIVE HIM, ESPECIALLY IF HE MAKES ME FEEL GOOD AND MAKES ME LAUGH. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE OTHER GUY, I DON'T THINK I WOULD EVER GET INVOLVED WITH A GUY THAT I CAN'T LAUGH WITH. MORE LIKELY HE WOULD HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME AND I WOULDN'T. PRETTY CONFUSING.
2007-01-08 04:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first one because it means there were genuine feelings and hes the type of person you can stays friends with. And besides whats a relationship without laughter, a boering one!!!!
2007-01-08 04:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kittyintx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋