I was elated when my boyfriend asked me to move-in with him. However, it has recently be announced that his little brother will not be moving out. His little brother is 23 and is a free-loader who has no plan or drive or realization that he is taking advantage of my boyfriend's condo. I will be expected to help pay the mortgage when I move-in... Also: My boyfriend travels for work every Mon-Fri. Therefore, I will be spending all of my time with the little brother; whom is a slob! I am very particular with keeping things neat and tidy - which my boyfriend appreciates! I think it is a hard enough adjustment to move-in with a significant other and I am afraid this added wrench to the situation (his little bro) is going to break-up my boyfriend and I! I want to live life and share life with my boyfriend... not entirely with his brother! Any advice with how to cope or how to convince my boyfriend that this is not a good idea?
2007-01-08 04:00:39 · 8 answers · asked by chocmartinigrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell your bf that you'll move in only if you each pay 1/3 of all the bills
2007-01-08 06:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The apartment above mine had a similar problem - two brothers (and one of their's girlfriend). My question - who's the oldest? Its not you its them and the issues they brought with them from their parent's house to their place. One of them will be the father figure - doesn't have to be the oldest, and its usually the younger. He will be the one who has issues with the other's female friends. Their problems are not just going to go away. They need space and to find their own identities to stop the family role-playing. Your showing of 'respect' only plays into it. Like it or not your boyfriend needs to find his own place - maybe with you. Only then will they both be able to grow.
2016-05-23 10:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your bf know that you would rather keep your own place, you would not want to infringe on his little brother. It really sounds like your bf needs your check to help pay his mortage. BTW what is little bro contrubuting. Tell bf straight up that this is not his best idea.
2007-01-08 04:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mention about the brother issue to your boyfriend, it's the worst you can do to buy a fight with the family. Invite him to live with you instead or just stay weekends with him since he is always on the road.
2007-01-08 04:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by guriazinhainla 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you could move in together somewhere else and let little bro take care of that place on his own.But that could backfire too. Just let your bf know that you are uncomfortable living with his bro and you love him but you can't live there.
2007-01-08 04:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend about the issues you have with his younger brother, if not it will creat alot of drama between all three of you if you move in with out discussing it.
if you're serious about moving in with your boyfriend have himmove into your place instead
2007-01-08 04:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your BF is not home Monday through friday just live there on the weekends and save your money for when you get married then buy a place together
2007-01-08 04:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i waz you i will not move in
2007-01-08 04:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by erickson j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋