i feel really bad. can someone give me some good advice. i dont know what her reaction will be. i feel really down.
2007-01-08 03:55:45 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
immortal- it is my fault but i couldnt help it. the girl was comin on to me. i blame her for getting me drunk.
2007-01-08 03:59:20 · update #1
thanx alex
2007-01-08 04:00:20 · update #2
mia l- if things dont work out for me or for u den i'll go out with ya!
2007-01-08 04:02:19 · update #3
all_304- well said. best answer so far!
2007-01-08 04:02:59 · update #4
miss tickle- lol. im makin 'no promises' that i will sing that!
2007-01-08 04:06:28 · update #5
i really appreciate all your help guys. even you tony blair! even though you took us to war.
2007-01-08 04:12:20 · update #6
it's a toughie that. perhaps you should sing to her:
Well I know I've acted foolish
But I promise you no more
I've finally found that something
Worth reaching for
I'm not here to say I'm sorry
I'm not here to lie to you
I'm here to say I'm ready
That I've finally thought it through
I'm not here to let your love go
I'm not giving up oh no
I'm here to win your heart and soul
That's my goal
:D
****This is a song by Shane Ward who won X Factor, i'm not just taking the pi$$****
2007-01-08 04:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all don't use being drunk as an excuse.Take responsibility for your actions.You can't blame the girl that you slept with either cause guess what it takes 2 to have sex.Also you obviously don't love your girlfriend as much as you say you do because if you did drunk or not you would not have slept with someone else.You should be honest with your so called girlfriend because she has the right to know what a dishonest cheat she is with and if you lose her because of it maybe you will stop drinking.It is ALL your fault nobody elses.
2007-01-08 04:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 09:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't take full responsibility for this mistake then you will continue to make this mistake in future relationships. If you don't want this to become a habit be upfront with your girlfriend with sincereity. She has the right to know because she put her trust in you. Let her make the decision whether or not to stay with you unless you just don't want to be with her. If you don't be honest you will be unhappy because of the guilt and you will end up breaking up with her anyway, and she will be scarred for your lack of honesty once she does find out the truth. Whether you think she won't find out, trust me...she eventually will. Everything that is done in darkness will come to light. If you really care about her it's best for you to tell her and by that experience if she decides to stay with you and you really care about her; realizing the pain you have caused her you will think twice about breaking her heart again. If you don't see yourself marrying this girl you're wasting your time and her time.
2007-01-08 04:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well we all make stupid mistakes, but if you are asking from a female point, I wouldn't tell her just yet. It's too hard emotionally to deal with a break up when there was no real intention of cheating, we say we want to know but actually the reality is we can't handle the pain that follows. My BF lives in another country I see him twice a year, he says if I cheated then have the good sense to protect myself, but the thing is I can't, I would not tell him the same thing, if he does I would want to know, I love him too much to deal with that type of hurt.
2007-01-08 04:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Solitary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, as im girl, this is what i would want u to do, if u werre going out with me, but ur gf could be different
but in a relationship honesty is so important, so tell her when ur alone together and tell her that something happened that u seriously regret and you want to tell her sstraight away because u believ honesty is important, just tell her about getting drunk at a party and a girl coming on to u, but becareful in that situation guys try to blame the girl who came onto u, dont try and pass the blame us girls see that as guilt, tell her u wanted to tell her because this thing is a unique experience. and u feel bad, good luck
xxx
she will feel bad, but the earlier u do it, the easier she will take it. make sure it doesnt get back to her another way.... if she dumps u because of a mistake-she isnt worth it-i know it sounds bitchy but its true
xxx good luck
2007-01-08 04:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by frankie! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whats all this - shall I tell her and risk our relationship cr** ?- I think you have already done that dont you.
Tell her - she deserves to hear it from you before someone else tells her - the truth will always out. Drunk or not - you were obviously capable - so NO excuse - I pity her- if she has any sense she`ll leave you - once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-01-08 05:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by sarahlou 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her reaction wont exactly be good! i hate it when people say it was due to drink - how weak does that make you sound?!
All i can suggest is you cant keep that from her, she might turn round and decide to work through it with you.
Be prepared for the shouting, tears, silence whatever - its the least you deserve.
you risked your relationship when you copped off with that girl, not by speaking the truth, dont be a coward now or you always will be.
2007-01-08 04:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would say that you should tell her. its a 50/50 gamble tho.either you tell her and risk splitting up, or you dont tell her and feel guilt. either way its gonna come out and isnt it better to hear it from the 'horses mouth' as they say?! i would tell her and she might forgive you for being so honest. BUT make sure you tell her the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth!!!!!!!!!!!! otherwise if she finds out differently and you are still together- well you wont be together!
good luck- id hate to be in either position. but i think telling the truth is the only way.
2007-01-08 04:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by lalala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me its much worse if she finds out from someone else like I did. And people LOVE ruining other peoples relationships so someone WILL tell her!! Then your relationship is doomed for sure, if you really think it was a mistake admit it and suggest counseling that's about the only thing I could think of that would make her think you were really serious about mending your relationship.
2007-01-08 04:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by ztns9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well obviously u aint with the right girl in the 1st place if u cheated ! Dont think this is gonna be the romance of the century do u ??
If u tell her , it might not be over straight away but its the beginning of the end , once that trust has gone forget it !!
2007-01-08 04:13:22 · answer #11 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋