were received - the mom didn't get hers. They were for Christmas gifts that I opened in front of them, so I thanked them in person, but I thought it'd be nice to send thoughtful thank-you cards as well. My boyfriend called me and asked, "how many cards did you send to my house?" I said of course 3, which is when he told me that his mom didn't get one. I was quite upset about this, because I sent them at the same time/same place, and also that they would even think I would send cards to 2 of 3 members of the family. I put a lot of thought and time into them, and my bf didn't mention whether the ones that were received were liked. The question is, do I send his mom another card, or do I just call her and thank on the phone, reiterating that I sent a card to her?
2007-01-08 03:37:01 · 7 answers · asked by Amelia819 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Call her and let her know that you "understand that you were the only one who didn't receive one of the cards that I sent to everyone" let her know how thoughtful the gift she gave you was and how much it means to you that you were thought of and how sorry you are that your card didn't make it to her when the others did, but please keep looking in the mail for it.
2007-01-08 03:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first answer had it just about right.. but i would add one more important thing.
Dont worry too much about it. If I were you, i would use this as a perfect opportunity to wait and WATCH what happens next, without getting too emotionally involved in the situation. You did the right thing, on all accounts, and the so-called 'damage' can yet be repaired.
How they all behave next, with you, and esp your bf's mom with her son, is very imp. If they drag this on, or if she holds injury, then dont be aplogetic please. Have self respect. They should not and cannot make you drag this on.
I find it odd that the son (your bf) is getting so worried over a little misplaced card. Of course he could just be asking casually... but I'd still watch.
Try and make a good first impression by all means, but also observe, observe. There is lots more than meets the eye here...!!
Good luck.
2007-01-08 15:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things get lost in the mail all the time. They should know this. Just call her (don't let bf do the talking for you, this will show her your sincerity and earn respect) and tell her you sent her one, too, and you are sorry it didn't get to her. When my brother got married, we heard of about 30 invitations that didn't get to the recipients (sent same time and place, all in the same town that family lives in, a town of only 3,000 people). I'm sorry, but if she can't forgive you, and she holds this over your head, you have some in-law problems ahead if you marry this guy, especially if he is offended, too. Sometimes it takes just the smallest spark to ignite the fire of the age-old mother-in-law vs. daughter-in-law battle.
2007-01-08 12:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your BF, because he knows his Mom better than you, and he probably has a better idea of how upset she is about this. If you don't always want to be known as "the one who didn't get her a thank-you card," then go ahead and send another one.
2007-01-08 13:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen for my engagement party. My fiance's aunt and uncle gave a gift, as did their two adult children who live in the house. The two cousins each got their thank you, but the aunt and uncle did not. As soon as I found out I sent another thank you and apologized that it must have gotten lost in the mail. She was a very gracious lady and thanked me for making the extra effort.
2007-01-09 23:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resend the card and call her to let her know what happened and that she should be expecting a card in the mail.
2007-01-08 17:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and thank her....
2007-01-08 12:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋