What do you deal with emotional pain?

Question

There is alot that has been happening in my life in the past little while. I would just like to know how so people deal with emotional pain in their way

Answer 1

i try to pick up something positive from it...
although it is hard but why cant u try...

do some pray it will solace ur heart...
think that there are other people who endured more emotional pain than u had....

Answer 2

Remembering that it will get better helps the most. The pain does not last forever. Sooner or later I can find a way to deal with it in a constructive way and feel better about it.

Talking it out helps mostly because I have friends that help me to eventually come to a point where I can laugh about it Especially the embarrassing heart wrenching stuff.

Doing things that soothe me like taking a bath, going for a walk, eating some chocolate or just spending some time by myself helps sometimes. A funny movie will almost always take my mind off of it for awhile.

Writing things down helps sometimes.

Counseling has helped when none of the above worked like when I was dealing with an emotionally abusive boss and when my daughter was sexually molested by my nephew.

Gathering more information on the subject especially if it had to do with medical things

Those are the most frequent ones that I rely on to get me through tough times.

Answer 3

Some of the things I do for emotional pain:
pray, read, draw, paint, sculpt, go to a park and take a walk( a rose garden is a nice place) and sometimes just cry till I can't cry anymore, then sleep it out. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone or just to keep a journal and write about what's troubling you, (this is how I clear my mind up of racing thoughts, I write until I can't think of anything else). Sometimes it's good to see a therapist or counselor to get you through the rough spot. Hang in there things will get better.

Answer 4

Emotional pain is always hard to control. Some people are taking alcohol or drugs, others overworking, overeating, going for shopping, taking revenge, getting busy, working in charity, having sex, meeting friends, etc. The list is long enough as to not know all of it.
Personally I believe that once the pain in strong enough to be unbearable for you, almost every solution is appropriate if it brings temporary relief to you.
Sometimes is necessary to be less picky and just grab to the first help you have available. The difference between feeling better or feeling pity of yourself is sometimes a moment of relief that makes you stronger to endure your sufferings.
I confess that once I can keep myself together, my instinct helps me to find “solutions or carrots" that are setting new objectives or help me to adapt to situations otherwise unacceptable.

Sometimes the way to get out of your problems can be worst that your problems itself. In that case, there is always time to recover later. First keep on breathing, keep your life the less damaged possible. Go for the fine improving details later.
In my experience, once you have a better moment, coming from anywhere, is easier to find strength where you can't find it.

The old method of listening people that are doing worst to feel comforted is not working for me. If I feel weak, I need to run away from more problems, since I hardly can cope with mine.
Spoiling myself once in a while also works fine with me.
Doing everything to put my mind in off when I feel I can not go any further, reading an excellent book, watching a movie by preference - the more passive activity I know - listening to the right music if you already know how to influence you mood, or simply playing with some kids or pets, even though it may sound cold, are also helping me when I have a bad time.
Sometimes oversleeping makes wonders, most of the times the next day I see everything different, less dramatic.
No recipe is useful for everybody, that you have to find alone, everyday and combined with your different moods. Practise and experience are the only ways to give you more certain ways to feel better.
Be strong! Nothing last forever...not good or bad times.

Answer 5

u do know that that know matter how many people tell how they dealt with it. it will not help u until u come to grippes with it your self. i totally understand how u feel. its one of the hardest feelings to get around. its in every thing u do or say. its not some other pain that u can for get about or even block out. u have it right there in you face 24/7. what i had to do was finally just let go and cry and scream till i was blue in the face know that not a good why to handle but who is to say how you handle something is right or wrong. as long as u better your self after it and u are standing on your on 2 feet again. and you have closure to the issues at hand then that was the right way for u.

Answer 6

Know that you're not alone in this emotional suffering thing. As you see by answers people care. Try to find a resolution to what is causing your pain and then move on in life. To dwell or have self pity will only prolong your pain and make you miserable. Good luck.

Answer 7

You do not say what emotional pain you are suffering from, but I will try to answer your question. For starters I lost a grandson,who was 23 yrs. old almost three yrs. ago, he was murdered by six men who killed him,mercilessly with 87, stab wound all over his body. You can imagine the pain the whole family was suffering when this happened, he was my oldest of 14 grandchildren I have and which I adore with my whole heart. I felt that my life had stopped when this happened and I started to become a reclusive woman who did not want to even go out on my yard, I would always be crying for my grandson, and did not even want to go on living, but a wise elderly woman sat me down and told me that God in his infinite mercy was going to do justice in my grandson's death, and I had to have hope that it will happen just to pray at night to the almighty God and pour out all my anger of this injustice, and ask him "thy will be done". and ask him every night for his vengeance on this people that killed him. They never have been able to take to trial these people that killed him and they never will. All I can tell you is to have faith that all will be resolved with whatever problems you have and Please! say a prayer at night and ask God that there is no problem that you and him can't handle, and do not loose hope, and you will see that your pain will be less as time goes by. I care and I hope that you will be able to go forward with your life and you will be able to see a change for the better.

Answer 8

I can most definetly empathize with you, I recently have been going through MANY trials and tribulations - including having my 40-year-old dad commit suicide and the rest of my world, of course, came tumbling down in accordance - The most important thing to keep in mind and repeat to yourself over and over is that everything has a reason for happening_ no matter how devistating it is and how much it seems to screw everything up, there is a reason that God let it happen. Secondly, you must truly understand that you cannot change anyones actions, thoughts, or emotions - just your own.

Answer 9

This is so hard a question to answer, especially when trying to
cope myself. Because just as you are getting over one thing
something else happens and you feel that you are taking a step
back instead of forward. All you can do is ride through it. Talk
to people that know you and understand you. Don,t be afraid to
cry. Write your feeling down on paper. Look around and although you are suffering yourself - you will see people who are
worse off than yourself. But as I have said you just have to ride
through it. Take care.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear you've been having trouble. You can try talking about it, to someone you trust, or you can try to forget about it, but its better to get it off your shoulders. You can try relaxing, like doing yoga, or just taking a warm bath or something. What kind of pain? Is it bothering you so much, that you cant stop thinking about it, or it's just floating over your head, and once in a while it just pops up? Either way, you should try talking about it with someone, especially if it's all you think about. good luck

Answer 11

There's a time a place for everything. Feel sorry for yourself when you have the time, eat something that's horrible for you then go to sleep. When you wake up, do something else. That's what I do. If it's something that makes me angry, I have 3 sisters and a couple of friends I can whine to. You just have to deal with things, but you also have to grieve about it too. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope things get better for you.