I have been dating a guy for a little less than a year. We both have one child from previous relationships. Usually, he has his daughter the same weekend that I have my son. Here's one of my dilemas, last weekend, my son was with his dad, and my boyfriend had his daughter. I really wanted the time w/out my son to my self, I wanted to enjoy the peace and quiet. Well, I felt bad, so I asked if they wanted to come over Friday night (just one night). They did, and they ended up spending the night, lounging all over my house all day saturday, and then finally at about 10:30 pm, he told his daughter to get her stuff ready so they could leave. Well, I felt the pressure on me, so I said they could stay if they wanted to. They did and then hung out all day yesterday too. I didn't get one free moment the whole weekend. I'm bummed because a quiet weekend is rare for me. Next time, how can I tactfully get them to leave. I'm not trying to be selfish, but I wanted some "me" time.
2007-01-08 03:34:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a single parent and I understand where you are coming from totally....but if you wanted "me time" then you should not have invited them to stay the next night. You don't have to feel bad or obligated for them to stay....and your BF would more than likely understand since he is a single parent too.
Don't let it go on so far like this until you reent it so much that you explode at him OR worse yet, at him and his daughter.
All you have to do is say, "Honey...I was hoping for a little quiet time on Sunday so I scheduled a manicure/haircut..." or whatever it is you are doing be it sitting around sipping coffee and reading all day, or shopping, or whatever. His feelings should not be hurt.
Do remember that if you want this thing with him to progress further though, schedule conflicts are going to be par for the course. You know you won't always get the "me time" exactly when you want it.
2007-01-08 03:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with self time. You probably miss your child when there gone, but you still need time o catch up on yourself and that time to get house work done, let’s face it it’s hard to get house work done with your child there occupying your time and being single is hard enough to do that. Now your guy probably wants his daughter to get to know you, but make sure your son is there too. If the relationship goes further your son will be part of it, be honest and disgust this with him as well
2007-01-08 03:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simplest way is to tell them just what you told us- that although you really enjoy their company, you need some time alone, to enjoy the peace and silence. You 2 have been dating for quite some time, so I think he will understand you and not make a big deal about it, think you've got something to hide or whatever.
2007-01-08 03:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him prior to coming over that you have a Very busy weekend and just need to take care of some things and that you HOPE he isnt mad but you have to do some stuff. If he asks what, tell him its a womans day and you have some WOMAN things you have to do... he wont ask anymore after hearing that. GOod luck
2007-01-08 03:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't have to tactfully get them to leave if you simply take the weekend for yourself.
he's a single parent, like you, and if he cares he'll understand.
2007-01-08 03:38:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time, invite them on saturday or sunday and keep the friday-sat for you.
2007-01-08 03:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋