We have talked about getting married, but we keep going back and forth on where to live. I'm getting my Master's Degree right now and because of my profession I'm limited to where I can work, and since I'm in school I need to stay in this town. He works for his father's business and doesn't want to leave.....How do I convince him to do so...or should I even try? We love eachother very much and I don't know what to do.......
2007-01-08 03:20:30 · 8 answers · asked by josie775 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if he really love you he would want to go with you. You have a choice it can go both ways you can either go with him or he can come to you. You can also threaten him to leave the job or you will leave him and if he really feels you would leave him hell come to you. So tell him to make a choice the job or you. good luck :)
2007-01-08 03:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by crystalnubi2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you about my experience. My girlfriend and I had a long distant relationship, about 450 miles, and she would often come down and visit. Due to what was happening in her life she was able to stay for quite awhile sometimes. I must admit that after a few months I would see her car in my driveway and think " God! is she ever gonna go home" I would never say anything of course and eventually she would go back home. My point is that was over twenty years ago and we are still together having moved in with each other two decades ago. So try not to read to much into it . The best option is to talk about it but it's hard not to get your feelings hurt when you don't hear what you want.
2016-05-23 10:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't convince him to do what is not in his heart to do, and his heart may be his father's business. If you are almost done with your degree maybe you both can tough it out until you graduate and find a place that is close enough for both of you to live, but commute to work. If not, the relationship, sad to say, is likely doomed if you cannot find a compromise.
2007-01-08 03:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get why you can't find other jobs, school credits transfer, and what is the profession is it that you are in that you are limited...if he's working for his father then more then likely he will inherit the company how can you ask him to give him that up. I'd see if you can transfer your credits and look for a job in his area, if being with him is that important, like I said he's more then likely going to inherit his father's business, how can he leave that?
2007-01-08 03:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see....... you need to stay where you are. You're limited to where you can work.
Therefore, you expect him to give up the job that he loves, and move away from the place that he doesn't want to leave.
Sounds pretty selfish to me. If you do convince him to go where you are, he's going to always be unhappy. Not a good way to start a marriage.
2007-01-08 03:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just wait. his father's business may be his some day and he's working there to improve it and keep up the quality of the business.
you are in school, working towards your future. maybe he feels he is doing the same.
just wait it out and when the time is right, you guys will live together.
2007-01-08 03:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by pamcake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks the same thing. Why can't i convince her? You have to look at it from both sides.
2007-01-08 03:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by laney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only thinking about yourself.
2007-01-08 03:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋