I have ben going out with my b/f now for 8 months we spend alot of time together..if hes not sleeping at my house I am at his..but I am sooo confused..He wont hold me at all..he wont kiss me at all..we hardly ever make love..and then its not realy love that we make...he says its not who he is..to hold and kiss and I just dont know if its a line of bull or if he is just mental...he treats me good and we dont fight..sooooo if there is a man out there that feels the same way he does please share.. or if he is just using me..but for what I have no idea...do you have any??
2007-01-08 03:06:22 · 7 answers · asked by dreamzzz102 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend must not care anything about you like he says he does and it is obvious that indeed he does have some issues. Whatever they are it is already destroying your relationship with him and your not forcing him to do anything he does not want to do. It is time you sat down with him and had a nice conversation with him. If he is using you it could be for his personal benefit or for other reason you will find out when you asking if he is using you. Any guy who loves the girl that he is with will treat them with respect and loyality and even be affectionate. It is part of the relationship and so is communication and honesty. If he can't talk to you about what is going on and be honest and is not willing to work it out well then it will be up to you what you decide to do next. I am sure you want to everything you can to make it work but if it happens that it doesn't then you know you have done everything you can and you know you have to move on. There are plenty of men that would love to date you as I am sure that you an attractive person.
2007-01-08 03:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... It sounds like this guy has alot of baggage, almost as if he is afraid to get comfortable with you in that way. There are people out there like that though.. they just don't have nor want the "soft" gene. They aren't bad people but sounds like he doesn't have the nature that you are looking for in a b/f. If this isn't an issue now it will be when you start to still wonder why this isn't happening after a year.
You cant change this type of person.. its their own mind and experiences that are holding them back.
2007-01-08 11:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is using you. Most men don't like to hug and kiss. It makes them feel vulnerable. If he doesn't go out with you on dates then maybe he is using you. BUT if you are looking for a man who is affectionate either train him to be more loving or keep on shopping for a new b/f.
2007-01-08 11:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Noneyabusiness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW Deja Vu!
Sounds like your boyfriend was me about 15 years ago. To add to your complaint, after making love I wouldn't stick around in bed but I would usually get up and go watch TV or something but like I said that was 15 years ago. Do what my ex did. She sat me down and talked to me face to face. After her explaining to me these things, I couldn't keep my hands off her. It may or may not work for you. Everyone is different but it's worth a try.
2007-01-08 11:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An I am sure he wants you to satifsy him before he satisfies you right? If your not happy now you'll never be... Find another man... Truth is your just there for the time, until he finds some one he is more interested in.
2007-01-08 11:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry, i have to ask, is it possible that he is gay? I dated a guy all through high school that was not "touchy feelly" and EVERYONE but me knew he was gay. It took me 5 years to figure it out.
2007-01-08 11:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are just not the touchy feely kind.
2007-01-08 11:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Whynotguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋