how do you know if you're not happy at a school?

Question

i dont know if i want to change schools. sometimes i feel that i really want to leave, othertimes i am happy. i think its just this year but im not sure. i think there is too much social pressure and i try to talk to my parents about it but they wont really listen. they dont want me to change schools and are convinced that this is just a phrase but i am not so sure and get angry with them for not understanding.
i have decided to stick one more year and see but i think i do want to move though i am not sure if i am truly unhappy.

what should i do?

im sorry but id just like to add that i am not religious in anyway so talking about god will not help me.

Answer 1

I don't think that everyone is always happy with the school that they are going to, but at the same time they are not un happy enough to really want to leave it. You have your ups and downs. Now if you were unhappy there would be no doubt in your mind if you wanted to change schools, cause you would do it as soon as you could i know i did. I really needed to get out of the school i had gone to all of my life and transefer to one as close almost. So if you are really unhappy with your school, you would be transfering as soon as possible, and you would really be getting on your parents nerves enough that they would listen to you, and go down an talk to the school, and let them know that . I hope this has helped somewhat .

Answer 2

School? Is this college or high school?
Face it -- life is not always pleasant & you learn most of the most valuable lessons from experiences that are sad or hurtful or scary.
You need to learn to deal with life as is it instead of running away.
If you are "not sure" you want to change schools, then it can't be that bad.
If things are not as you wish... change those that you can & if you can't change them... make the best of them, chances are you could look back in 10 years & see how important it was that you experienced these things in order to be successful later in life.
Good luck (be easy on the parents, some day you'll more than likely understand).

Answer 3

That Hindu story above my answer says a lot. I suggest you read the story without the interpretation below it. Think about it for a while. see if it fits your situation. I believe it will help you gain some clarity

Answer 4

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.