So my g/f left a party for her friend at a bar (where all her friends were) to go meet up with another guy by herself at a piano bar, and then "some how" they both ended up back at her place. She said they both took a cab since his car was someplace close to her house at his friends. The only reason I found out was because some of the people she was with at the first bar came back to her place to crash, and caught her alone w/ this dude at her place. Cause for concern? He called her the nest day when I was there and they had like a 30min convo in front of me as well. It was nice. So is she cheating on me?
2007-01-08 03:02:19 · 14 answers · asked by andberg1182 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems you have walked into an awkward situation and not sure what do. I am sure whatever happened the night before and whatever her and the mystery guy were talking about must have been something important for her to do it right in front of you. There is something going on without a doubt, She could be cheating on you or this mystery guy could be a good friend of hers and she needed someone to console about something she was afraid to tell you. Maybe you should sit down and talk to her and find out what she was doing meeting a guy at cocktail lounge and what the phone conversation was all about, let her know you care a lot about her and concerned that something is going on and you want to know what it is, after all you have the right to know. I am sure you don't want to blame her for anything until you have cold hard facts. If she can't communicate back with you or look at you in the eye then you can figure out from there. It is up to you however what you decide to do as far as making it work or leaving her. If she does not know how you feel then she can say that you never talk to her about anything and you certainly don't want that.
2007-01-08 03:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a possibility. The first thing you have to understand is: There isnt much you can do about it. Being jelous doesnt help. Just go on with your life, you can maybe ask: who called? if she doesnt say, just say ok.
If she breaks up, you just say ok, and find a new girlfriend. After all, you dont want to keep a cheater, do you?
(The worst thing that can happen is that shes just having an adventure with this guy, but nothing formal, cause in that way she might not break up with u, just have fun with the other guy, so investigate a bit, just in case).
2007-01-08 03:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if you guys are in a serious relationship, and the only way she told you was she got caught??? It's very,very suspicious. I suppose it would depend on how much time you spent together,and if she is taking ts relationship as serious as you are. Even if this charade was an "innocent" one, it's just a matter of time before it turns into something else. I mean drinking and going home alone with guys will almost always lead to something-whether or not she wants to admit it.
2007-01-08 03:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by KM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is. Left her friends to go to a piano bar and then went to her place alone? Definetely some boot knocking in that equation.
2007-01-08 03:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will probably never know, the real answer to this question. So ask yourself these instead; Is this someone you really want to be with? Does her going out, having people crashing at her house, and having questionable relashionships with other men bother you? Does it happen often? Can you let it go ? If not, maybe you should let her go.
2007-01-08 03:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and ask her if she is. If your relationship is honest then hopefully she will be honest with you and let you know one way or the other. Seems funny however that you had to find out from friends rather then from her. Best of luck in getting to the bottom of this.
2007-01-08 03:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect yourself and dump her now before she hurts you more and makes an even bigger fool out of you. You don't even have to give her an excuse. She'll know it and on some level respect you for making that decision. Maybe next time she'll think twice before she does something so snakey and downright cold blooded.
2007-01-08 03:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my ex-wife... then yes! She is cheating on you.
If it is my forever wife.... then no. She is just friends with him.
Talk to her about how you are feeling. You will get a sense if she is still in to you or not. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 03:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by guradical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they old friends that haven't seen each other in forever? If so, they may just be catching up. I would think if she was cheating, she wouldn't have talked to him infront of you, but would say instead that she would talk to him later, or be more secretive about it.
2007-01-08 03:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say she is... I don't think there is one lady out there that would bring a guy back to her place, but for a booty call... or attempt at one anyways...
2007-01-08 03:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋