i mean i cant help it if im in love right? its not sumthing you decide.. .it just happens..coz the guy is so damn good at makin out..and its some sort of amazing classy romance sorta thing .. i mean wht next ??? i mean how do i make such a guy fall for me flat out...p.s. im better looking than him..
he's got his attitude goin for him.. n ya he s rich..i dont want his commitment..i jus want him to fall for me full onnnnnnn
2007-01-08 02:59:50 · 22 answers · asked by spin spin sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I believe this is a live and learn situation. I disagree with the concept that, "it just happens." I must admit that sometimes our better judgment is totally wiped out by what we feel is love. I must point out the divorce rates though, certainly there must be a different truth that is not being found that describes what love is. You only mention that he's is so good at making out...sound like you both lust. Lust can never be, nor will it ever fulfill what love is, and what love can only fulfill.
There is no way to "make" someone love you. There is either a meshing and turning on of another, or not; A chemical fire that burns, or not.
However, sex is not love. Love does include sex though....but it is designed to be a binding of two becoming one in a marriage.
Etienne Primeau
2007-01-08 11:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by etienne primeau 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your comment "guy is so damn good at makin out" indicates that you are in lust with him too! If you took the sex out of your "relationship" would you still want him?
As for making him fall for you, you can't! At this point you are too easy for him and all men like challenge. I had a male friend once tell me that he ALWAYS wants the woman until he GETS her, then he doen't want her anymore. For some you just have to hold on to your cookies a little bit longer to find out if they are interested in really getting to know you and one that is will wait. One that isn't will get mad, talk crap and put presser on you.
Recognize them for what they are early on and you will have a BETTER relationship next time, but you need to let this penis go or keep it while looking for a replacement RELATIONSHIP!!!
2007-01-08 11:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe I am confused, but what do you love about him?
All I hear is that he can make out and perhaps "n ya he s rich" means that he has money. So what?!?
I am sure that you can find a guy who can make out and has a heart. What difference does money make? Most of the richest people in the world have the worst relationships. Love is about anything but money.
For that matter, life is about much more than money.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-08 11:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit alone for awhile and ask yourself some questions. This guy is lusting after you, which means he's in love ONLY with your body. If you're claiming to "love" him just because he's got his attitude going for him and he makes out well, then you're just lusting for him too. Lust is perfectly fine for you if it's fine by your morals and values. But please don't confuse it with love. Love is something so much more beautiful and special. So don't say you love him when you're just infactuated with him and lusting for him as well. At the end of the day, you ought to be asking yourself how much you're worth. Are you really worth just his lusty feelings? You've got to remember that in this gender-biased world, women still have alot more to lose than men. When all's said and done, that guy friend of yours can simply get up and walk away. You'll be the one picking up the broken pieces, feeling used and unloved. =) Sorry for being so direct. Just my two cents worth.
2007-01-08 11:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Stranger In Paradise 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let's see...you're having sex with him and have fallen for him. Now, you want him to fall for you because he is rich, but you don't want his commitment?
It seems to me that if you were truly in love with him you would want him to commit to you. It sounds to me like you just want to use him for his sex and money, not necessarily in that order, until you decide you are ready to move on.
Anyway, I wouldn't count on him falling for you any harder than he already has because he has gotton his prize. There is no need to work any harder to achieve something he already has and is enjoying on a regular basis. It's kind of hard to go backwards and gain true affection from a man once he's gotton the booty. That's especially true if that's all he really wants.
2007-01-08 11:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl
you rreally not in love with this guy , you are just attracted unconditionally , you cant fall in love with someone just bcuz he is freekinly good in bed . falling in love ( true love) takes lot of thing . if you have really loved him you wanted to spend your rest of the life with him . just because he is good in bed and has a lot of money cant make any guy superior . know your emotion . as a girl i can only tell you leave him , this type of guy is only SEX Material .
2007-01-08 11:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by tricksy52002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on the friendship and see what comes of it. Ask yourself also (maybe write down) why it is you think you're in love with him. Perhaps you'll be able to see the situation differently.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-08 11:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he only lust you does that mean he only in it for the sex/
Love takes time. And if you don't want his commitment then how could you love him, or is it you love his money and his skills to make you hot?
I am sorry it doesn't sound like you are in love with him but in love with the idea.
love takes time~~
2007-01-08 11:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're obviously in lust too. You don't love someone because they're good at making out, or rich, or romantic.
2007-01-08 11:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dacious P.I. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your in love...he;'s in lust...."You see that Bee on that flower over there, we'll if your that Bee...uh, uh, your working too hard in that relations.
You need the bare necessities
2007-01-08 11:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋