To Women....If you know a guy who is ugly?

Question

If you met a guy who not good looking but you thought he was a very nice guy in a lot of ways like he really tried to make you happy and treat you really well. Would that be enough for you to want to be in a relationship with him? Or would the fact he is ugly keep you from even considering this? I see myself as mostly a good guy (at least a lot of people tell me this) although I know I have some faults but I know I am not very attractive and find that many women I want to try to have a relationship with aren't really interested and I think it is my looks. I ask this because I wonder if I should not consider plastic surgery of some sort to my face. Many of my friends say I should not do that and learn to be happy with myself the way I am but I wish I knew how important this was to women. Please only honest sincere answers

Answer 1

Sorry dude, I have to answer this: man to man.

While everyone takes their first cues from looks, it doesn't work the way you think it does for women as with men. Women are obsessed with their own looks because we guys are visual...what we see translates into what we want to do "to" them "at that moment". What women see from us translates into what they want done "for" them "in the future".

In other words...
A dude's hot body means "future protection & healthy strong kids"
Good looks means "Attractive kids to continue blood line"
Confidence means "Alpha Male - head guy in charge; power = protection"

Don't get me wrong, this isn't the scope of women (just like we guys aren't only sex fiends) but it is an important part. So If you think that you are a little homely, you can always get a hot body and project the Alpha Male Confidence. Those will be enough...trust me.

Also, its great to be a gentileman but make sure that you're not projecting a "friend" image. All to often us good guys forget to also flirt and project some "sex" towards women along with our kindness, and because they are EXPERTS in the field of signals, they may be reading that you are just a buddy and not relationship material. Make sure you spell out that "you want her" through your signals while you're also being a nice guy.

Finally, realize that you are here! Alive! In existence...which means that "what you have at your disposal" has been working for those before you for at least several generations. Your looks, personality, phisique, everything...you gotta tap into that source.

We are who we choose to be.You can be the ugly, lonely, nice guy...or you can be literally irresistable... just look at Flavor Flav: The Chick Magnet.

-Ya Boi

Answer 2

Sorry I am not a women but have to answer this question. I know and have seen many men who are not attractive with some of the best looking gals around. Why? Mostly because they are confident in who they are and not worried or concerned about their looks. And the women that they are with are not superficial and realize that these guys are 100% straight up. Listen to your buds and do not get plastic surgery (as it will be a lifetime of continued surgery) and you probably won't be happy with the outcome. Be yourself and trust me when I say that you'll become involved with a woman that will accept you for who you are and not how you look. I am in a wheelchair and not the best looking guy in the world but have a fiance that loves me unconditionally as it is my personality that attracted her. Keep the faith and good luck in meeting your someone special.

Answer 3

For starters : DO NOT get plastic surgery. The face that u have, is what represents you to the world and you WILL never be happy with an artificial face, no matter how good looking is it. Everyone is flawed, in their own way. You probably have more personality traits than most guys, and that says a lot. I have seen so many couples, where one is not in the league of other, and they still make an excellent couple. The first step, is to be PROUD of who you are. Love thyself. Learn that. Be yourself, and don't look down about your looks. Believe in or not, i kinda relate to you, yet I think that its all good in the end. The key is learn to be happy with yourself and before you know it, you'd be surprised what life has in store for you. EVERYONE finds someone, and so will you.

Answer 4

Looks are not very important on my list at all. A man that is caring and intelligent is a much bigger turn on than looks.
Most (not all) women will agree with this. My husband was quite overweight and geekish when i met him and at the time i was very thin and attractive. I loved him because he was a sweet, ambitions, caring man. I have seen many very ugly men with teh most gorgeous women.
You should not get plastgic surgery and like your friends said, be happy with what you are . It is dangerous and true happiness comes from the inside. Besides, i am sure you are not ugly and if people tell you that you are nice looking then yo probably are :-)

Answer 5

I'm a very picky person esp. when it comes to guys. the most important qualities for me are honesty, intelligence, good sense of humour, fun and stable. Looks are partly important as well because I would like someone in my league. I know that sounds immature but I am attracted to good-looking guys. If a guy is not good-looking then I don't even think about going into a relationship with him. However, if I become friends first with someone who's not ridiculously handsome and he does turn out to have those qualities I'm looking for then I would consider a relationship. But guys who are not confident with their looks usually have self-esteem issues which bugs me because I don't like cowardly men. Also I'd like to have good-looking children as well. And it's nice if you go out and people say "wow, what a nice couple!". But to some women looks are not important at all. To every shy guy there's a shy girl. I don't recommend plastic surgery unless you have body dysmorphic disorder or if your looks are really affecting your daily life.

Answer 6

This is a hard question to answer, simply because every person finds diffferent things attractive. I know women who like big guys, I know women who like short men, or bald men, or no facial hair, or glasses, etc... everyone has their own type. You might be hot to one woman and not to another.
I have to agree with some other answerers who said you haven't met your "right one" yet. And confidence is a factor. If you walk around with your head to the ground, nobody will notice.
I have a best friend with your same problem. He thinks he is too geeky or too fat or anything but what women want. Although I think he is sexy (gorgeous blue eyes, super smart, he treats me with much respect and care-and many of my friends over the years have said so too) he thinks he is ugly and not able to find someone who will treat him how he deserves. I tell him he will find that one, but it will happen when it's meant to be. In the meantime, boost that confidence. You don't need any stupid plastic surgery. Please don't butcher yourself like that. Your friends are right. Blessed be to you and good luck.

Answer 7

The most beautiful man in the world would be ugly if he had a crappy personality....the ugliest man in the world could be beautiful if his personality is wonderful. Just remember beauty is in the eye of he beholder and just because one sees you as ugly this doesn't mean the next will too. Plastic surgery is a drastic measure to a common issue. Your special someone is out there, just give it time.

Answer 8

I know you said women,but I have something to say, It shouldn't matter what the guy looks like just as long as he's a nice guy and treats you nicely then it's all good,but if he is good looking but he is mean then that's not a realtionship you will want

Answer 9

really it's not important to be handsome to find some one to love u or get into a relationship with u every one has it's style which she loves
i can see someone is handsome other wise another women wold tell that gay is ugly u see diff rent opinion that the way life goes
be live me personalty is the most important if u love girl with a pretty face and u got married to her then this girl got her face burnt will u divorce her u love her personalty not her face
u got what i mean

Answer 10

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