theres this guy who i was very close to... we were extremely good friends for 2 months ,, sharing secrets getting close (we neva met tht often) its lik best frnds.. he went to london for studies in sept..it all like drifted apart.. i mailed him n i neva got a reply for lik 2 n half months...i called him n got thro a wrong no... i was heart broken.. i cried soo many times thinkin about the awesome time ive had with him and now tht its like over... i din expect this from him.. he dint even bother to get back in touch.. i left a lil rude kinda msg on his public blog so he realised n got back to me sayin hes begging sorry for acting so rude and tht he was busy adjusting there.. we kept in touch like this for a month..n now hes back here from london since 8 days n yet hes not bothered to get in touch..i felt soooo bad..theres nothing i can do...i dont want our relation to end... but i cant stand this behaviour...because in the 1st case i dont know what went wrong for such behavioue form him
2007-01-08 02:51:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if hes acting like a jerk stay away from him...but if you see there is some hope for change go ahead......by the way i suggest going back the london for some spelling studies....
2007-01-08 02:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by ~!FISH!~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, you have a on a high-level of infatuation. He is being responsible and trying to settle down with the new responsibilities in a new city and the demands that are on him to pay school fees or for food and accommodation or the immigration status issues. The last thing on his mind is you at this juncture if he is in trouble. Yes, as a friend he can relate that to you, but some matters are confidential and cannot be disclosed. Or it may hurt both if he did. There is nothing wrong in keeping in touch with him, he knows you are there and that he will come around when he has time and be able to breathe freely. He is making good on his career so he can settle down and start speaking to you and other women who would like to join him to be a part of his family, that time will come but he is not ready for anything now, even romance. So, take it easy, if you have time and take to sports and it will create new friends and you will also feel relieved of tensions. You are counting every minute passing by, he is still working on larger issues. Why don't you tell him if there is anything I can do, please do let me know. He may be proud not to ask you for that help. But it's his life. Leave him alone for now and he will realize why you didn't bother to call him and will come around, guaranteed.
Make new friends, explore the world and London, there is too much to do and you may be losing your valuable youth on one person when there are many who are adorable out there. Just relax and carry a smile and say life is "fantastic" and this will bring second looks for you, including from this guy one day.
2007-01-08 11:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by iorusanyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't take the time to get in touch he is not a extremely good friend. You can't build a strong relationship with someone over 2 months, be real.
You are just hoping and dreaming for this. It is not real and you are fooling yourself by thinking it is.
He is not interested in pursing this, you must face it.
You had a nice time together and that is it.
You were rude on his blog, and that shows him your immaturity.
That could have affected his choice to get in touch.
He probably has outgrown the relationship and has move on. You should too.
You have nothing to be upset over; you shouldn't be so needy.
You will drive everyone away from you if you don't relax a little bit and quit holding on so tight., .
2007-01-08 10:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you friend is "going away" again. He isn't making an effort to be your friend and may have other interest at this time. I would try to think less about him and more about yourself. Do you really want to continue a friendship with someone who has done this to you twice? You appear to be having deeper feelings than just a friendship. And if I am right, think about what kind of person he is and what the future would be with a person like that.
I would just get a grip and say to myself "I don't deserve this kind of person" and move on. Good luck.
2007-01-08 11:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very simple... He need you company when he is not busy or not getting any1 elses company... he know that you cant leave him and would always be there when ever he is in need of you... he went 2 ny a new place, new people, new girls so he got himself busy and didnt bother about you but after somedays when he was feeling lonely and depressed he knew who to fall back on"You"... and now when he is back he must be busy in meeting his realatives and all the other person who matters to him more than what you do.......... ALL IN ALL YOU ARE JUST A STEPNY FOR HIM (sorry for being rude with you)...Get so new friends and start enjoying YOUR life.../
2007-01-09 08:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by vishal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know honey wht to say????i can very wel understand that how u miss the person and all those moments u have spent together...i had some wht same experrice except that we r still in same city but whts on her mind i just cant make out...i mean we had a fight..i said something she flet bad and after that i tried all means possible but she is some wht resistent though a bit convince to come back to me...nwaz am sorry i started with my own story...look dear...ill suggest just one thing...look u two were freinds...might b u feel more than a friend for him but he didnt and u realised when he left for london...look if u feel u love him..than b in touch only if keeping in touch doesnt hurt u...there are two things...if ull keep in touch with him some day he might come back to u ( if he is actually very busy with other stuff in london which it seems can b the case coz going abroad for studies and earning too is really very hectic) but it might also happen but God forbid if he find some one else there than it might hurt u more...look dear..beleiv in it" if u love some one let him/her fly....if he/she come back to u he/she is urs otherwise he/she was never urs"...do not presurise him..look after so many days he has come to india..it seems he might b busy with other imp things...and if u dont love him than please u need to think..coz sort of expectation u r making is more than a freind..please u need to work on it....coz there are moments in life when carrier is more imp than any other realitonship...am sure even u must b having freind with whom u dont make contacts for months but when ever u meet..u meet like good friends...look dear life goes on and if he is just a freind than b just a freind..u live ur life and let him live his but yes than this should never b the reason to break friendship
coz am sure when he will get settle in much better fashion he will make contacts coz at that time he might realise and miss u and cme back to u..so no need to close the doors for him of coming back to u...but honey if u love him or infactuation than u better engrossed urself in other things...yar even u have ur life and things which are more important and prior than this relation...think...look dear a very personal thing but i did this mistake quiet a few times when i wasted my time and didnt give proper thing prioprity when they need it coz of all these kind of stuff and today regret it....i hope u dont commit the same mistake...
2007-01-09 03:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has not contacted u after coming back then i dont think he is really interested in u r got diverted. but wait n see dont b heart broken if he really misses u he will contact u if he doesnt just forget him n get on with life but if contacts u refresh ur relationship n tell him how he has hurt u. if he really loves u forgive him if not just tell him to go to hell ok. n dont feel depressed life goes on just like he has gone with it so b brave maybe u may find some other nice guy all the best
2007-01-15 09:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by ahsu254 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how wise you are
postive thinking:
if i were him maybe i had a lot of work or
or Stress
o maybe so shame i was return with "failure"
or You are too kind for me it was a shame for me plz leave me i don't want to make you suffer find another
or Such a ****** i am how could i do this, i can't even honest to her
etc
Do not let him back to London untill he honest to you and give you the answer good luck!
2007-01-12 01:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Arrakhis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he's a very selfish guy, do u really want to stick around with such a guy? i know its hard, but u have to sort it out... with youself.. can u reallly live with a guy who you can never be sure of, weather he will be there when u reallly need him and later come up with convincing excuses? do u? cause if the answer is no, its best to cut him off,right now, as hard as it may seem..
2007-01-14 01:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by Growl_yawn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u all just grew apart into different directions n it happens. it hurts but do what u have 2 to be able 2 move on. remember that just because this ended does not mean ur life does not go on. there is someone out there who will be good 2 u u just have 2 be ready 2 find him.
good luck
2007-01-08 10:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋