My son has been potty trained as far as pee pee for almost a year and a half. He has had only one accident during the day since I started potty training, and has never wet the bed. When it comes to going poop, he refuses to do so. He tells me he will use the potty next time, and then the next thing you know he is hiding and pooping on himself. I have tried everything I can think of and nothing has worked. Help?????????
2007-01-08 02:46:43 · 8 answers · asked by Krzy72 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have already tried the :big boy underwear" thing. I also tried making him clean it himself. He cleans it and then asks me to wash his hands...lol!!!
2007-01-08 03:01:08 · update #1
What does your son hate to do?
Here's my aunt's story: My cousin would not go poop on the potty, just like your son. My aunt decided that when ever he would mess himself, she would wash his hair! I know it sounds weird and like a pain, but my cousin hated to have his hair washed. She said that it only took 3 times of him pooping his pants and getting his hair washed until he got the point and went in the potty.
The point of the story is that you have to figure out what your son will go in the potty to avoid. maybe brushing his teeth if he hates that, or getting a bath, what ever you know that he hates to do. It may be a pain in the butt for you to do it, but it wont be long and you will have your way!
Good luck.
2007-01-08 04:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing I will say about this, having gone through it with my youngest, is that the more you force it and make a big issue out of it, the less inclined your son will be to poop in the potty. At this point, it has become a power struggle. I agree that a 4-year-old knows what he's doing. Having said that, I also think you need to first make sure nothing is physically wrong, I'm sure you've already thought of that. After that, sometimes the bribe thing will work with some kids, although at age 4, it may be too late.
What I did was to say to my 3-1/2 year old son that we would stay home until he learned to do this by himself. No preschool, no playgroup, no trips to the library or the store...nothing, till he learned to do it reliably in the potty. He's a smart kid so I knew he could do it if he wanted to, and staying home for him was the hardest thing because he got bored so easily and really hated missing out on his activities. We had been using pullups but he was simply pooping in them and not even making an attempt to make it to the toilet. So the other thing I told him was that each pullup cost the same as a Matchbox car and I could not buy him any more pullups, but if he figured this out, I could buy him some new cars. I kept the house warm enough so he could just run around in his underwear and a tee, and I had some M&M's on hand for rewards, but no big toys or anything like that. We had the potty in the kitchen so he wouldn't feel isolated and moved it back into the bathroom after he was trained. While we waited for nature to take its course, I read to him and played with him normally and didn't force him to sit on the potty. It took us less than a week to solve the problem, after which I did still sometimes have to help with wiping.
This may not work for every kid and obviously you will need to stay home from work if you have a job outside the home. You should also expect to clean up some messes. Good luck!
2007-01-08 03:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to Wal-Mart let him pick out some thing amazing! Some thing he has wanted for a long time. Then get a few smaller things.
First time he poops in potty he gets 1 small thing
then every day he poops he gets a small toy/book/present/candy
but on day 3 or 5 he goes poop in the toilet he gets the big gift he has wanted and a pizza party with pop! and ice cream for desert!
Best of Luck~~
2007-01-08 02:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing. Then I got smart. Instead of cleaning it up I made him do it. He did it twice and decided it was gross. He hasn't had a problem since. I think he would rather use the potty then risk touching it. Good luck
2007-01-08 02:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at this point, he understands exactly what he is doing. Make him clean himself up, and than make him sit in his room until he goes on the potty
2007-01-08 02:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One friend's son wouldn't go because his parents were in the bathroom. All he wanted was privacy! You can also make a 'treat jar'. Put little wrapped (toys for example) treats in the jar & leave it in the bathroom. A treat can only be taken if he poops.
2007-01-08 03:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i make my nephew sit on the potty when he thinks he has to go to the bath room then as long as he is sitting there he end up going while sittin there.
2007-01-08 03:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by fenkell_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him compliments when he does it right and treats maybe.
2007-01-08 02:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by ben. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋