My daughter is 2 and 8 months old,want to potty train her?

Question

I have been trying on and off potty training her.She is pretty smart and she knows how to go, some days she sais PEE PEE and runs to the toilet by herself,and sometimes she pees and sometimes she doesnt. She even takes off her daiper sometimes and pees on the floor.She knows that u need to caca and peepee in potty.But i think she just is too lazy and doesnt care. I vene ried putting panties on her but shes pees in it.Pull ups doesnt help at all. Should i just wait it out till she really wants too??i never forced her to stop soosoo,she lost it and idnt care about after.Than she didnt care also about bottle in crib when she stoped. She did crawling by herslef, and was quick with walking and does full sentances and sings full songs.She knows alot.what should i do???

I give her treats when she goes. And she doesnt miss the potty she just hides in her bedroom takes of her daiper and pees.For caca she just hides.I know she reay for potty training, its just that i let her go when shes ready.. IF i go ok pee in potty she will say no sometimes and yes otherdays. She always goes to bathroom when i do both,she understnds all that pee and caa in toilet already, she has like a brain of a 54 OR 5 YEAR old, she just doesnt want to do it. But i dont like forcing. once she peed 4 times in toilet and one pooped in one day.And than 3 days later she didnt care about it.

I mean 4 or 5 year old,haha

Answer 1

You shouldn't rush her, but 2 years, 8 months is actually right around the right age to be training her.

I used to actually take mine in the bathroom with me to show them what comes out. It helps determine the difference for them.

I also put the potty in the bathroom and give them treats when they go. For instance, a pee gets a apple slice and a poop gets a big dance from me, all excited, and an apple slice. Always use positive reinforcement...showing any angst or upset during potty time will retard the efforts of learning and will set you back.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, when you decide to toilet train a child, you DON'T do it "on and off". You have to keep at it and BE CONSISTENT. She IS old enough to be trained by now. There should be no choice...society dictates that we go in a toilet...period! She is NOT going to be psychologically scarred, I promise you.

As far as training goes, boys are more difficult to train. From what I've been told by doctors, and have also experienced first hand, no matter how bright they are, they are not usually totally trained until their third year. There's just something about a boy and bowel movements that don't coordinate well.

A girl, on the otherhand, is almost always easier to train, as long as you are consistent in their training. THEY won't be consistent unless YOU are. I wouldn't put her in diapers either. They have a couple of brands of disposable training pants now...I think one brand is called "Pull Ups", even though you say they don't work. Until she can deal with REAL panties, she SHOULD be wearing those, whether you think they work or not....give them more of a chance.

Also make a big deal about it whenever she is successful. tell her how PROUD you are of her...and that you are SO glad that she's becoming such a big girl now! Children naturally love attention and love to be praised.

DON'T react when she isn't successful. She seems to be getting more attention with negative actions, so stop reacting. Just quietly change the pants and move on. 2yrs. 8 months is old enough, too, that if she actually urinates on the floor, hand her a sponge and have her help you clean up the mess that she's made. Don't scold her, but just calmly explain to her that since she didn't use the toilet, where the "pee pee" belongs, you two will need to clean it up. Even at this young age, they should be taught to take responsibility for their choices and actions!

That's what worked with my son when he was three. I got very tired of having to clean those horrible bowel movement "patties" in his training pants. I told him that I didn't like doing it, so if he's going to keep doing it, that's his choice, but HE'LL have to empty his BM into the toilet, and rinse his own underpants from now on. It took only ONE time (I was there, of course, when he went through it) and he was thoroughly disgusted! I reminded him that I didn't like doing it either. He decided to use the toilet after that.

You HAVE to stay with this. Keep reminding her that when she needs to go to the bathroom, it has to be IN THE TOILET, not on the floor, in her pants, or anywhere else. Be gentle, but firm when you remind her. And you will need to remind her many times.

Answer 3

I haven't officially tried the training yet. But, my sitter has a 3 yr. old who wanted nothing to do with going on the potty whenever she tried it. All of a sudden, she is apparently ready and has been better about it. Some kids just do need to be ready themselves and care about it enough to want to do it. Keep going as you are, giving her the opportunity to do it, but remember you still have plenty of time. One of my brothers didn't finally quit being stubborn about it until age 4! So either it may take longer for her, or she may decide to do it on her own sooner.

Answer 4

explain to her that she is now a big girl. and you would like to throw her a big girl party. but you can't until she is potty trained which means that she needs to wear big girl panties she needs to use the bathroom everytime and never go in her panties. ( you should not allow her to wear diapers any more. ) tell her that you will make her favorite foods at the party and she will get a present. make it sound fun and exciting. and as soon as she makes it a whole day with out an accident give her her party. it worked with my son who was trained at 2 and we are not doing it with my second son who just turned 2 less then a month ago. good luck.

Answer 5

She isnt lazy she just doesnt know why it makes a difference to go in the pull up or the potty. Even if she doesnt go when you put her up there still keep inforcing it and she will get it. It seems like shes off to a pretty good start and is almost there. good luck.

Answer 6

She is not lazy. She is still in the process of learning when she has to go. My son is going through the same thing right and he is about the same age. If she knows when she has to go then let her and if she misses then its okay, just let her know that you really need to get it in the potty next time. Sometimes they miss b/c they are not fully developed as well. If she knows what the potty is and when to go she is ready...thats just been my experience.

Answer 7

I tried on and off with my son until he was about your daughters age. He hated sitting on the potty and he would stretch his legs out when ever I tried to put him on it myself. I am a single mom, and one day, I was laying in the bed and I heard someone peeing in my bathroom. I thought someone entered my house, but it was my precious son. He trained himself, and only had one or two accidents after that day. I say, she'll know when she's ready. Don't force it, but definitely encourage it. And no pull-ups, it will only confuse her.

Answer 8

mine is 2 years and 10 months and doing the same thing. I think we just have to keep encouraging them to use the potty and it will come naturally.

Answer 9

My son was so stubborn about the "ca-ca" part that I

finally took him to daycare the they shamed him into

using the bathroom. I guess by the time they're in

Kidnergarten they will have the hang of it.

Answer 10

if she pees on herself let her walk around with the pee underwear on to show her she needs to go get on the potty if she has to pee. if she does it on the floor make her clean it up. if she is old enough to know that she has to she is old to enough to know the consequences if she doesn't go to the bathroom