I'm 16 and he's 15. We've gone through the whole breakup thing quite a few times and we always end up getting back together in a few days, if not the same day. So I guess I don't really take it very seriously anymore. But this time he swears we won't get back together..... We were on the phone last night up until 1:30 because he wouldn't let me get off the phone. He said that if I hung up he'd just call the house and blah blah blah so I had to stay on because I didn't want to get in trouble with my parents.
I get very cranky after a certan time at night so I wasn't in a good mood and all I wanted to do was get off. I told him we could work it out tomorrow when I was actually awake. We started arguing. He complained that I always get an attitude when we fight and doesn't want to deal w/ it so he broke up with me and started crying right away. It hurt his feelings that I wasn't sad or crying... Is there something wrong with the way I handled things? Should I have cried? Opinions?
2007-01-08 02:35:47 · 25 answers · asked by Charlene L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stuff I couldn't fit in:
We've been together for a little more than 15 months.
We don't hang around other people at school or anything so Im kind of clueless as of what to do when we go back tomorrow.
Idk...... Im out of things to say.
2007-01-08 02:42:08 · update #1
We're in the same grade.
2007-01-08 02:43:53 · update #2
Bravo, you definitely handled things just fine. I understand what you mean and I understand why you're not sad or crying. I've been through that whole break up mess over and over again with my boyfriend. It's retarded how he's the one who dumps you and he cries, but then when you're not all upset about it, it makes him more mad. You probably don't care because it's getting old. What he probably wanted from you was you crying over him begging for him back, but it's a good thing you didn't because then he'll be wearing the pants in that relationship. Right now it seems like your in control so way to go! He doesn't seem considerate of your feelings so you shouldn't be so considerate of his feelings. You're pretty much just tired of the whole relationship seems like it to me.
2007-01-08 02:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Mina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 09:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to break up with you, it wouldn't hurt him if you didn't react badly. It sounds like he just wants to play mind games. Don't play. No one can keep you on the phone until 1:30 if you aren't willing to be on there. His threat to call the house was probably a bluff, but in any case, how could YOU be in trouble for him calling the house? Especially if you two had already broken up earlier in the evening. All you had to do was tell your parents you guys had broken up and he was calling to bother you or try to get you in trouble. It sounds like somebody isn't even mature enough to be in a relationship, because relationships shouldn't be all this breaking up just to get right back together non-sense.
2007-01-08 02:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u did not do anything wrong. crying is very emotional when u cry that means u r hurt. the reason y u didn't cry is because u weren't in love so u did not feel the need to cry. just like u said, u 've been there and done it so for it was just the same.
2007-01-08 02:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a little like emotionally you have moved on. He sounds a little insecure and clingy. It sounds like you are really tired of the whole thing and your head and heart are saying move on girl. He sounds a little unstable so I would talk about it to your parents. It will help you move on and become stronger if you talk it out with them. They will probably have some good advice. I wish you well. Take care.
2007-01-08 02:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Execusuite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your so over him...and ready to move on...
or
you just expect that you two will get back together so it doesnt matter how many times he breaks up with you...just just kno its really not over....
I'd suggest moving on...for the both of you...see the other fish out there and if it just so happens you come back together it might be worth something trying again
2007-01-08 02:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a dork. I think you are getting over him so getting back together would be the worst thing. He wants you to be all over him and by crying he is trying to base a relationship on sympathy. Who wants to date a cry baby? He has called your bluff once too often it appears. I think you will do fine without him.
2007-01-08 02:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just don't believe him anymore I guess. You are both very young and it sounds like you've got the wrong idea about relationships. I'd suggest you really end it once and for all.
2007-01-08 02:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charlene, he sounds much too needy, there are a lot of nice boys out there do not settle because you are too young for that. Move on maybe with someone in you own age bracket
2007-01-08 02:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both a little immature but don't stress too much but I'd be thinking about some other guys just in case
2007-01-08 02:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by Valerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋