I've been having an on off relationship with my flatmate. At New Year he told me he loves me and that he wanted us to have an exclusive relationship. I expressed some doubts but over the next couple of days started to warm to the idea. Now he's gone all cold and distant suddenly (not for the first time) and I don't understand why. I can't really ask him directly because he's emotionally retarded and hates confrontation. This game has been going on for about 8 months now and I'm getting sick of it. Is it time to knock it on the head?
2007-01-08 02:24:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is time to dump this loser. But then you knew that you just needed confirmation. Good luck.
2007-01-08 02:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by DeCaying_Roses 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he might not know what the hell he wants at this point in his life. I would say you need to move on sweetie especially if he is emotionally retared and hating confrontation. Relationships are give and take as well as communication and understanding from both parts, if he is not willing to make the connection with you then he is not willing to share and equal partnership with someone right now. You deserve better especially if he has been so wishy washy with you for 8 months its time you found a man who wants the same things you do, im sure you have lots to offer a wonderful man. Good luck to you
2007-01-08 10:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he can not be emotionally retarded. Find out why he is, don't just accept it.
It sounds as though he is very scared of getting hurt, and you essentially rejected him, and that's why he is being distant. Its damage control. You hesitated when he suggested taking things further. To him, that is a big slap in the face.
If he can't confront his problem with confrontation and not do this distant thing then you are never going to be fully happy, unless you understand enough to know why he does it.
Its up to you.
2007-01-08 10:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well to be honest wiv u if it`s been going on for 8 months like that then yes its time to call it a day. i can`t see it getting any better and he`ll always find something to get cold about. it`s just the way he is and i don`t think people like that really change. really sorry if it`s not wot u wanted to hear and i wish u good luck in ur future wotever ever way u decide to go
2007-01-08 10:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by groundhog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally retarded? And you think there might be a future with this man? He sounds like he might be bipolar as well, given the sudden emotional withdrawl. Communication is a big part of any relationship. Talk to him, and if you get nowhere, then it might be best to cool it with him.
2007-01-08 10:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's time for someone to knock you on your head. Are you really that desperate that you'll hang around waiting on this bloke to make up his mind about you? Gawd, I wish I could find an easy piece of tail that I could control like this guy's doing with you. Get real, Woman up...stop being so available to this guy.
2007-01-08 10:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is emotional retarded (whatever that actually means), as you state, then it is likely that he is 'always' going to be playing games with your emotions.
If his state of being is an accurate one, then the only way you can remove yourself from the game, is to remove yourself from his sphere of influence in your life.
How you go about that depends on you and your circumstances.
As a slight alternative ~ does he have a Social Worker?
If so, seek help there.
Best of luck.
Sash.
2007-01-08 10:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go hon. If you really can't talk to him about it, then let it go. Not being able to communicate says something for the future of your relationship. Knock it on the head? Absolutely.
2007-01-08 10:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Knock it on the head or have someone knock you on your head and stop game playing. Just cause you change your mind you think he should give in. OMG, some gals really think its ok to be wish washy.........(guess this makes you mad huh?) Oh well
2007-01-08 10:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, why would u want to be involved with someone that u cant even have a simple conversation with, especailly if hes emotioanlly retarded and hates confrontation! if u cant ask him, then whats the point? dump him
2007-01-08 10:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice!You've got the key.You are the only one who knows how much you can take. You know better if you wanna get engaged in a relation with a guy like that...But personally i think you should see if you truly love him,'cause if you then it's OK. If you don't...the best for both of you is to let it go.
2007-01-08 10:29:10 · answer #11 · answered by iunona_33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋